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The Internet is an illusion of meeting. The connection is based on internalized and selfish feelings, often projections of what we are looking for, rather than what the other person is actually like.
Physical attraction is fickle. Individuals can be intensely "in love" one minute, and not at all later, simply based on appearance. Often, people are in love with "being in love" not with you at all.
It's good advice to ask for many photographs, so if physical attractiveness is important to you, a balanced look at someone over time and in many contexts is achieved. People look very different in different photos.
Don't project an illusion of a person from one image. This approach goes against almost everything our body, mind and the Net convinces us is real.
This is probably the hardest advice to follow in online dating. All of us have been in situations in which we felt somewhat uncomfortable but did not want to be rude.
Remember, if someone makes you uncomfortable on a first date, you have no business going out with him or her again, so the best thing to do is end the date quickly and leave. This means that the person you meet will not have your license plate or a description of your vehicle. This may seem like overkill, but your personal information is available to someone who is dedicated enough to find it, so minimize your information exposure on the first few dates. If someone does not return emails or texts, move on.
There are far too many potential dates online for you to worry about someone who seems flaky. Also, you risk looking pushy if you try too hard to communicate with someone who is obviously not interested.
Online dating presents a world of life changing opportunity, both positive and negative. If used safely and responsibly, it can help you find the love of your life.
It can connect you to a soul mate who lives in a part of the country or world that you have never travelled. It can give you a chance to bond with people that you never might have met otherwise.
However, it can also allow you to fall victim to predators and ill-natured folks. Ellen Kriedman also known as Dr. Ellen says online dating is an advantage for people who are uncomfortable about meeting people in public places, or who are new to an area.
Online dating services also can be a good option if you frequently travel for work or have children or other responsibilities that make going out to meet people difficult. What's more, you're not confined to the area where you live. You can search the world, since you have international access via the Internet.
And you can meet people without fear of commitment. Online dating services provide chat rooms that allow you to get to know someone before you exchange photos or phone numbers.