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Think about how long you've been in the relationship, and how much you realistically expect the other person to contribute. If you think dinner and a card is reasonable, get the other person a card and ask him or her out to dinner on or near the day. Talk to your new crush. One way to alleviate the stress is to simply talk to your crush about it. You can suggest keeping it low-key since you're new to the relationship, as well as make a plan for a nice dinner or an outing if you'd like.
Why don't we keep Valentine's Day low-key? We could say no gifts, though cards are fine. Do you want to have a nice dinner together? For example, you could say, "I know our relationship is still in the early stages, so I thought maybe we could talk about what we want to do for Valentine's Day. Are you a fan of the holiday, or do you prefer to ignore it? Be honest about how bizarre it is to begin a new relationship as other couples are declaring their love from the rooftops.
Let the other person know that you get the fact that both of you may not be ready just yet for poems and love songs. As an example, you could say, "So, Valentine's Day is coming up. I don't really know how to treat it since we haven't been dating very long. What do you think we should do? I know we're probably not ready for poems or love songs, haha, but I thought I would bring it up.
If you both want different things, try to make a compromise. For instance, if your new crush prefers something fancy, but you'd prefer to keep it low-key, maybe you could settle for a fancy home-cooked dinner. If you like to do it up big, but your crush seems uncomfortable with that, try to tone it down a bit. If your new crush is a someone who gets you, you should be able to find a reasonable compromise.
Part 1 Quiz Why is it a good idea to talk to your new date about Valentine's Day? So you can agree on how to treat it. So you have time to get them a great gift. To find out if they're seeing anyone else. At this point in the game, you don't want to be too extravagant, as you can scare the other person off. A diamond necklace is over-the-top and too much if the relationship is still new. However, flowers or a nice box of candy may go over well. You don't want to scare the person off.
Try a cute card. You may not want to get too mushy at this point, but a little mushiness mixed with some humor is fine. For instance, you may not want to pick a card that says "I'll love you forever! Another option is to bake your new crush a sweet treat. A batch of brownies or cookies is thoughtful, but you're not throwing a huge amount of money at the person. Gift your favorite book or movie.
This gift is personal, as you're giving a bit of yourself to the other person. However, it's not so personal that you'll drive the other person away. It's sweet and thoughtful, but not over-the-top. Just be sure you know your crush's preferred method of reading books digital or book form or watching movies. As an added bonus, you could watch the movie together on Valentine's Day. It can act as card and gift. Go with a classic. Flowers, candy, and wine are always good gifts, but try to do it with a bit of a twist.
For instance, if you get flowers, consider getting a pretty potted plant that will continue to bloom or a small pot of succulents. If you know his or her favorite candy or wine, wrap it up in a pretty package. Part 2 Quiz Why is it a good idea to keep your gift lighthearted and fun? Erotic gifts, like lingerie, can be too forward.
You don't want to spend too much money. It's nice to give something small and personal. You can't go wrong with classic gifts! All of the above. Consider just getting drinks. A nice, no-pressure event for Valentine's Day could be going to have drinks. If alcohol isn't your thing, you could get coffee instead. That way, you don't have the pressure of creating a monumentally romantic evening. Try cooking a nice meal. If you're far enough along in your relationship that you want more than just drinks, try cooking a meal for your lover.
It's not as big an expenditure as a fancy restaurant, but it still shows you're thinking about the person. Enjoy a nice lunch or daytime event. You don't have to go out at night! A lunch or daytime event is less romantic than dinner. Doing a fun daytime event could take the pressure off the holiday while still letting you have fun. Keep your day-date casual and low-key. Go out around the holiday.
If the relationship is still new, maybe you want to acknowledge the holiday somehow. However, with restaurants so busy on the day and lots of pressure about being in love, maybe it's best not to go out on the actual day. Personalise your news feed by choosing your favourite topics of interest. Create your own newsfeed. This site uses cookies to improve your experience and to provide services and advertising.
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