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You each put up a boundary because you do not want to get hurt if the other person leaves. Rather than seeing each argument as a reason to leave, see it as an opportunity for growth. Look for a solution to the problem, and work together to solve it. If you do decide to leave the relationship, do so after careful consideration, not in the heat of an argument. Grudges will hold you back from having a joyful relationship. If there is an issue you cannot let go of in your mind, talk about it.
Find a solution to the problem and bring closure to it. For more guidance or to learn about couples counseling near you, contact one of our Michigan therapist offices. Conflict Resolution Tips for Dating Couples Couples Counseling Michigan Couples counseling is popular among married couples, but that does not mean it is exclusively for married couples.
Practice Respectful Communication Good communication is a defining element of successful relationships. Make concise statements about your thoughts, feelings and concerns.
Then let your partner comment. Respect the person who is speaking, and truly listen to what he or she has to say. Do not interrupt each other. Do not spend too much time speaking without allowing the other person to respond. Remove all distractions during the conversation — TV, phone, computer, etc. Identify the Underlying Reason for the Argument There is usually a much deeper meaning behind every argument. Pause the Conversation as Needed You do not have to resolve all conflicts in one setting. Let Go of Grudges Grudges will hold you back from having a joyful relationship.
Taking responsibility for my part, when I wanted to dump the blame on him. Trying to listen with compassion when I felt frustrated or fed up. But, with a clear intention in mind, I did all these things and more. Today, one of the things my husband and I most prize about our relationship is the way we communicate with one another, especially during conflicts. We do all the things I had envisioned when I first set my intention , and I feel a huge sense of accomplishment in knowing that this was no accident, but something we consciously created.
Intentions can be conscious or unconscious, but everything you say or do will be based on an intention. We all have a lower self that operates mainly from a place of fear, weakness, and limitations; and a higher self, one operating from a place of love, strength, and creativity. Before engaging in a conflict, I recommend setting a clear intention that is aligned with your values and the desires of your higher self.
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