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I don't think I'm willing to date her at this exact point in time. Thanks for reading and hopefully providing some feedback. I'm very torn right now. I really appreciate all of the comments, guys. I can't say reading these responses and having 12 hours to mull things over is enough to make a decision, so I can't really promise that I'll be updating this thread with a final decision.
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It's giving me a lot to consider though, and it really just helps to receive opinions. Half your age plus seven. So you're on the borderline. I guess if you're in the states you're both too young to drink so you have that in common. Look at this way OP - in only two years she'll be eighteen and you'll be twenty one. That's pretty clearly in not-weird territory. I'd say you're close to the edge of acceptability, but as long as you're not taking advantage of some naive young girl which is why those laws exist in the first place I'd say you're all good.
Alright so heres the deal. I was in the exact same Plus another brother, and an older sister position as you. Met a girl through some friends, spent some time together, hit it off, and I find out she's 16, meanwhile I'm I hit the brakes, wondering what the fuck am I going to do? I'm in Canada, age of consent is 16, so all is well legally My morals were conflicted, but she doesn't look 16, and she doesn't act like a 16 year old So I took the jump We've been together about 9 months now, and I haven't looked back since.
Can a 16 year old and a 19 year old be in a successful relationship ?
People gave me shit for it almost every time they heard how old she was, but you just gotta brush it off. We shared so much in common, and she both looked older, and was far more mature than most people I can remember being when I was that age I actually thought she was around her early 20's when I met her that when we went out for dinner, or on a date, no one gave us weird looks. The hardest part about dating someone that is in a different point in their life You in College, her still in high school is that her parents are going to see you as a total scum bag, that probably only wants in her pants.
You need to really, really make an effort to get her family to accept you, and grow to like, and eventually love you. I'm 20 now, she's 17, I've met most of her immediate family, I spent countless hours in the summer doing household work for her mom, and shooting the shit with her Dad when he visited.
If things go well, fine. What's wrong with this question? Girls are in "love", and go along with sex to get the closeness they desire. Spending any significant time together is going to be difficult under those circumstances, because everyone is going to question your intentions. That cannot be the case. Between the two of us things were fine.
Her sister, and one of her brothers He's 22 I'm still not quite sure how they feel about me, but her oldest brother 30 really likes me, I talk to the guy almost everyday at this point. Really in the end it's all about how you present yourself to her family, and if you're able to show you've got the backbone to stand up for their daughter, love her, and not just trying to bone her, then fuck what everyone else thinks, do what makes you happy. When I consider the changes I experienced in attitude, general knowledge of how the world works, maturity, sense of empathy, etc. I just couldn't imagine you having all that much in common in the end.
Its your and her decision ultimately, but don't be surprised if you don't quite seem to be able to communicate well. Sure you might get some ass hat parents now an again but most should be pretty chill. Like for me her mom was a crazy person who needs to be locked up in a padded room but her dad is an awesome guy.
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They just wanted there daughter to be happy and she was when she was with me so really they were not going to say no. PLus we were so into eachother saying no would just be words. You've been shamed into thinking it's bad to date younger, attractive girls but it's completely normal and healthy. If the average guy was being honest with himself he'd admit that teenage girls are the hottest girls around. But if it's not legal then yeah that's a huge problem. I mean I had friends that were in highschool, he was a senior and he dated a freshmen and they ended up dating for 4 years before getting married so the circumstances wasn't weird for them.
Actually we started dating when i was 17 and she was and then i was 18 when she was Sure we got lots of people making jokes on us and we had to be careful about her parents and what not but really it did not effect like at all.
We were just goo goo over each other and it really did not matter. Talk to her brother and see how he feels about it. If you show good intentions and won over his trust then maybe things will go easier on that front. On the other hand don't worry about age, when you get older years age difference is very common at least what I've seen and no one has an issue with it. Society has placed a set of guidelines over younger people to "protect" the young people from things like this but I see it as no problem as long as you're not crossing any boundaries. It's legal, who's gives a shit.
As long as you're mentally at a similar level, relax. I don't think it's that weird. A little unconventional but don't let that scare you. I say go for it and fuck anyone who thinks it's wrong. It's none of their business. I think it would be weird if she had JUST turned 16, like, yesterday, and you were gonna turn 20 tomorrow. Otherwise it doesn't seem that weird. Anyway, if you can remain friends until you're both of age, maybe you can pursue a relationship then, based on your successful friendship.
Spending any significant time together is going to be difficult under those circumstances, because everyone is going to question your intentions.
Jan 6, I know of a year-old currently dating a year-old. The maturity gap is notable , but not so severe that they can't relate to each other in a relationship. Half your age plus seven. So you're on the borderline. I guess if you're in the states you're both too young to drink so you have that in common.
But, if you can hold out and begin a relationship later, when it's more "appropriate," no one will give a shit. For instance, I'm 8 years older than my wife. When we first met I was 26 and she was That would have been weird. We got back in touch via the internet at 32 and 24 respectively, and there was nothing weird about that. It's all about timing, man. I don't think so. She's in a very different part of her life than you are, and no matter how nice a guy you are, there's a power imbalance in the relationship.
Her parents are likely to be uncomfortable with it, which will make her life more difficult and may make her tend to be more attached to you than she would otherwise be, because she sees you as "forbidden fruit".
If you really like this girl, be her friend for the next two years, and then revisit the subject of romance when she's Go for it - I've known 21 year olds that were less mature than some 16 year olds and vice-versa. Just don't forget that you're in different phases of your life right now. You're both pretty young, but she, in particular, is still developing a sense of identity.
Be aware that she may change over time, especially when she hits college. Oh, and no sex until she's 18 - especially in the South, things can get really ugly for you if something goes awry. Are they distrustful of you? Is the girl going to have to lie to them in order to see you? If so, you could be creating problems for her that she'll regret when she's older. But if her parents are okay with it, then proceed. Is it an overall bad situation? You don't really give us enough information to be sure, but maybe, possibly, yeah, kind of.
How would you feel about your sixteen-year-old daughter or sister, if daughter's too much of a stretch hanging out with some nineteen-year-old dude who says things like "I'm not saying I'm going to go out and try and sleep with her or anything"? I don't think we can definitely say there is a power imbalance just by looking at their ages. For all we know l3luer could be a dork with low self esteem, and the 16 yr old could be the queen-bee hot chick from her high school, and the power relationship is reversed.
And there isn't something magical that happens to a girl's maturity level at her 18th birthday. Besides, by then, she'll be starting college and he'll be working, most likely, and they'll still be at different lifestages. Age-wise, i don't think it's a problem, as long as it feels like a relationship of equals. If it feels creepy to you, if it feels like you're talking to someone younger than you, or it feels like you're dealing with a child, relative to the people you normally talk to, then that is your answer re: I can't imagine that anything other than the most draconian legal system would find a relationship between people 3 years apart a problem.
Further to that I remember reading this point in a similar thread here, so this is not an original comment , things can go really awry if you break up and she decides to get revenge by telling people you did have sex. No 16 year old girl is worth potential statutory rape charges hanging over your head.
There are some pretty annoying laws in the US, you've got my sympathy, but I wouldn't touch this kind of situation with a ten foot barge pole if I were you. It would be totally different if you were both a few years older, or if your genders I am presuming you're a hetero male were reversed. I live in Georgia. My daughter is Yes, you would be putting yourself in a bad situation, never mind any legal problems. Where I live not GA you could be forced to register as a sex offender every place you go for the rest of your life. I have a 16 year-old-daughter, and yes, it would be bad.
If you really care for you, you can wait. Junior year of high school? I didn't turn 16 until senior year of high school.
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It was not uncommon to have friends a few years older, especially when we started going to local college campuses for frat parties. I would not say it is the most common of situations to be in, but this is incredibly subjective. No offense, but the 19 year olds I knew who would date or rather sleep with 16 year olds were not the most mature people, on either end.
It is regarded as rather trashy, immature. That would be her , not you. I assume that both of you are in GA? If not, there could be some problems.