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He was significantly older than me that is my preference , well-traveled, articulate, intelligent, gorgeous, ambitious, accomplished, and had impeccable taste. He lived in a different state than I did, but he traveled to see me. My matchmaker checked in with me from time to time. My match and I went out several times and frequently spoke on the phone in between dates.
I began to fall for my match, but couldn't quite figure out where he stood so I backed away. It has been a bit over two years since that match; I recently updated my profile with SS because I am ready to try again, but I will be fine on my own if I am not set up by them again. I wrote this review because I completely satisfied with my experience with them and question some of the things that others have written.
I was not charged a dime, nor was I friend requested on Facebook; I submitted four pictures as part of my application and that was it. I was set up with a high quality man that met the parameters that outlined.
My advice is to give it a try, but be prepared to not be what they are looking for. My experience was great and I would not have changed a thing. Selective Search is very dishonest about its marketing. They say it's free for women to join, to meet high quality men, who are also professional and marriage minded. I am a young, attractive, high status, professional woman, who joined the site in the hope of finding a good match.
They wanted to charge me thousands of dollars to begin. I'm a very attractive, graduate, educated, loving, sincere, generally amazing year old female not usually this confident, but you must know the kind of woman I am to appreciate this story I signed up with Selective Search because I naively thought I'd find someone sophisticated, commitment-minded, and kind.
I thought this was a high-end matchmaking service After filling out the extensive online profile, submitting pictures, and meeting for an in-person interview with a S. It's been almost two years and I have had a whopping one 'match' who was 56 years old I said my top age was 42!! I'm not exactly an Oklahoma girl. Selective Search listed one of his major interests as 'watching television'. And as a bonus, S. I don't get it.
Was I not the 'type' of woman Selective Search was looking to pair up with their 'top-notch' guys? Maybe I'm not plastic enough?? Or was THIS their idea of a top-notch guy? Oklahoma is truly a wonderful man, but it's hard for me to believe that there aren't other wonderful men out there who are: Selective Search was four for four in totally disregarding my requirements for a companion.
The more I looked into the company and read about what other women and men who had tried this service and been less-than-thrilled had to say, the more I realized it's not a high-end matchmaking service at all, but rather a company with an identity crisis.
Any 'good' man who signed up reported being set up with a trophy-like young woman who was clearly just looking for financial stability. And the 'good' women who signed up reported being overly objectified and not set up with quality men at all. So what's the deal?
Can't the representatives at S. Is this all a glorified sex-date-superficial-fly-by-night-pseudo-relationship thing? I don't understand, but I'm writing this today in hopes that if any other man or woman is looking to invest time, money, energy, hope into finding 'true love' through a matchmaking service This is a letter I sent to Selective Search.
I am an attorney with an impressive pedigree, and a very attractive one at that. I have never felt like a bigger piece of meat. Something that I did not mention in the letter, when my friend unfortunately signed up, the company sent her a Facebook request to see more pictures, after I saw that she had already submitted many pictures.
I saw the pictures she sent, she is gorgeous and a surgeon. Then they set her up with a guy that made degrading remarks and was not even close to being on the same level of attractiveness, not even in the ballpark. I understand that things don't work out, and that is how dating goes, but I am 37 and truly look 27 and they were setting me up with year-old men.
I actually gave the "plastic surgeon" a chance, even though we clearly looked awkward together. He seemed shy and endearing at first; then I got a more accurate picture. He is quiet and judgmental and has an ego the size of Jupiter in my opinion. He was absolutely, positively not interested in a relationship.
He was interested in giving me 3 hours of time a week if that and sex, end of story. They did not screen this guy to see if he was actually "commitment-minded. Ladies, if you sign up for the service, really ask about how "commitment-minded" these men are. Do your homework and don't assume anything. Also, try to get a picture first, it will save you a lot of time and energy. My letter to the service follows: I mean this in the nicest way possible, but I am quite disappointed with my experience.
First, I was matched with a plastic surgeon. There is absolutely nothing about that man that speaks "commitment-minded" or interested in any sort of meaningful relationship whatsoever.
First of all, the guy works from 6 am to 11 pm, Monday through Friday. He is in private practice, so he works these hours by choice. He works every other Saturday and also works most Sundays. This is the reason why his wife cheated on him and left him essentially his words not mine; "she was upset I left her home alone all of the time with two young kids. Isn't this the type of information you try to get out of a client before you set them up with women? I have read quite a bit about Selective Search on the internet, and found quite mixed reviews. In Barbie's Glenn Beck interview, she claimed to turn away men that were not ready for relationships.
I call BS on that claim. I understand that Barbie is a client of the plastic surgeon, so she should also have known what he is like to be around, maybe a good surgeon, but not Mr.
Also, she is probably aware of the fact that the plastic surgeon's wife cheated on him when they had two young kids. Ladies, women don't usually cheat unless they are emotionally abandoned.
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Another thing that bothered me was the fact that I purposely submitted a humorous picture to demonstrate my humor and it was cropped. So, are you really trying to match people up based on personality, or are you simply trying to match an old man with money with an attractive woman? Truthfully, I shouldn't have given plastic surgeon so many chances. I really thought he was shy and probably a little damaged by his experiences. However, after a recent attempt to reconnect and you would love his texts to me It is my opinion that the man wanted this: I will break it down: The last time we went out, he had me park in his garage so the neighbors would see, and looked around to make sure no neighbors were looking before giving me a simple goodbye kiss!
I would think that your service would weed out this type. Seriously, what in god's name would make any of you think that I would be interested in a decrepit old man? Most of the guys I have dated, including my ex-fiance, are gorgeous and about my age. I could smell his grandpa breath from a mile away. I was completely turned off when he told me that he has dated numerous Eastern European women that were much, much younger than him and could barely speak English.
So, apparently, he moved on from the "mail order brides" to Selective Search. He was a nice enough guy, but would any of you date him?