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Their reaction is emotionally intense, a behavior they use to keep you an emotional prisoner. If you go back to them, you actually fear a worse reaction if you threaten to leave again making you a prisoner and they later frequently recall the incident to you as further evidence of what a bad person you are. Remember, if your prize dog jumps the fence and escapes, if you get him back you build a higher fence. If you have an individual activity, they demand that they accompany you, making you feel miserable during the entire activity.
The idea behind this is to prevent you from having fun or interests other than those which they totally control. If you speak to a member of the opposite sex, you receive twenty questions about how you know them.
They will notice the type of mud on your car, question why you shop certain places, and question why you called a friend, why the friend called you, and so forth. They may begin to tell you what to wear, what to listen to in music, and how to behave in public. Eventually, they tell you that you can not talk to certain friends or acquaintances, go certain places, or talk about certain issues in public.
When in public, you quickly learn that any opinion you express may cause them to verbally attack you, either at the time or later. This is another method of destroying your self-esteem and confidence. After months of this technique, they begin telling you how lucky you are to have them — somebody who tolerates someone so inadequate and worthless as you.
Keep in mind, this same sense of entitlement will be used against you. If you disobey their desires or demands, or violate one of their rules, they feel they are entitled to punish you in any manner they see fit. They will notice a change in your personality or your withdrawal. The mention of your family members or friends will spark an angry response from them — eventually placing you in the situation where you stop talking about those you care about, even your own family members.
Bad Stories People often let you know about their personality by the stories they tell about themselves. The stories a person tells informs us of how they see themselves, what they think is interesting, and what they think will impress you. A humorous individual will tell funny stories on himself.
They may tell you about past relationships and in every case, they assure you that they were treated horribly despite how wonderful they were to that person. Waitresses, clerks, or other neutral individuals will be treated badly.
A mentally healthy person is consistent, they treat almost all people the same way all the time. If you find yourself dating a man who treats you like a queen and other females like dirt — hit the road. The Reputation As mentioned, mentally healthy individuals are consistent in their personality and their behavior.
Your role is to make him feel good about himself and not to bore him with Ultimately, you will discover that the trouble with dating a loser is. He doesn't exhibit any of the telltale signs you are dating a loser, does he? He's never late just a loser? Here are my top ten signs that you are dating a loser.
Pay attention to the reputation. If the reputation has two sides, good and bad, your risk is high. You will be dealing with the bad side once the honeymoon is over in the relationship. Emotionally healthy and moral individuals will not tolerate friendships with losers that treat others so badly. You become paranoid as well — being careful what you wear and say. Nonviolent males find themselves in physical fights with female losers.
Nonviolent females find themselves yelling and screaming when they can no longer take the verbal abuse or intimidation. In emotional and physical self-defense, we behave differently and oddly. If you are involved in a relationship with one of these versions, you may require professional and legal assistance to save yourself.
Physical Abuser Physical abusers begin the relationship with physical moving — shoving, pushing, forcing, etc.
Getting away from physical abusers often requires the assistance of family, law enforcement agencies, or local abuse agencies. Female losers often physically attack their partner, break car windows, or behave with such violence that the male partner is forced to physically protect himself from the assault. They may fake terminal illness, pregnancy, or disease. If you try to end the relationship, they react violently and give you the impression that you, your friends, or your family are in serious danger. Was it suspended because of some accident and now he doesn't want to use bus?
Do you give him a ride or borrow your car? Don't do it any more!
Very few relationships start on terms other than sweetness and politeness. The best advice I can give you is to enjoy the attention, but don't let it detract from your studies. I honestly cannot tell. That little device is handy to use on the phone — the microwave dinner just came out or someone is at the door. If you try to date others, they may follow you or threaten your new date.
How many time did he disappear for no important reason without giving you a phone call? And you can't call him because he hasn't got a cell phone!
And then he shows up again and behaves like everything is fine. Do you know what? He might be staying at his other girl's house.
A guy who doesn't have job has plenty of time for making their stroke perfect. Well, he probably has another jobless girl to practice, but then he comes back to you, because you give him a lot. And he gives you just sex. Don't find anything good in his personality in order to justify being with him. You do whatever to please him, but he's never happy. Do you know what, he's a loser. I t can be hard to see who you are actually dating during the honeymoon stage, when everything is so perfect.
So how can you tell if he is really Mr. Here are my top ten signs that you are dating a loser…. He moves fast, meeting your friends, moving in, proposing… the perfect whirlwind? Normal people need time to get to know each other and fall in love, as nobody wants to get hurt. He has Anger Problems… You might have considered this when you thought about his temper, but how long is his fuse?