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Picking the first one on the list, we headed for their Sunday service. When we arrived at , the parking lot was already full. After parking down the street, we rushed in, thinking we must have gotten the time wrong. The greeters at the front door assured us we were right on time. It felt an awful lot like a first date, when each person smiles on the outside, while on the inside, wary eyes are checking the other out. We slipped into a pew and tried to make ourselves inconspicuous.
You can probably guess where this went. We stood and smiled.
SILVER LAKE: Maranda Walker was surprised when her pastor announced that there would be a speed-dating event, after the morning. My husband and I began a search for a church community in Eugene, a town we recently moved to. Based on a web search, we had a list of five spiritual groups.
We smiled again — on the outside. According to a recent Pew report, about half of U. And nearly half of those church hunters said they were willing to switch religious denominations in order to find a faith community that fit their needs.
As I think about our experience yesterday, I realize that this is exactly what it felt like: Looking to see if the community fit our needs. I never liked the dating phase when I was young. I wonder?
Maybe long-term spiritual growth and fulfillment in a church community are similar to long-term growth and fulfillment in a marriage? My biggest fear going in was that not one man in the room would be mark their sheet as being interested in me. But somehow I left the event feeling much more confident and relaxed — both about my current state in life, and about possibly dating in the future. Weird and unexpected result :shrug:.
Good for you for taking a risk and trying something new! I hope you meet someone interesting and go on some fun dates. Instead of looking at what is wrong with people instead try to see how God see them. I agree with the general sentiment, and in my particular niche of relationship advice dispensation, have found that women get into real trouble when they start making excuses for their male partner. I think what people need to realize today is that dating is an investment.
No, never done speed dating at all, let alone Catholic speed dating.
How did you find out about something like that. If something like that was going on in my area, I would try it. As an elementary school teacher 19 years , I am on the front lines of identifying a myriad of issues in children — physical, emotional, psychological — and working on the team of professionals teachers, administrators, psychologists, etc. Hidden disabilities are things like autism. I was able to interact with these children in a way that made the children and their parents enjoy the festival so much more!
So when a gentleman at a speed dating event sits down with me and displays characteristics that are similar to my students with autism, a red flag immediately goes off. He was showing compassion and curiosity.
He was respectful and kind about it. No way, no how. Quite the opposite!
I know couples who met while helping out at homeless charities, mission outreaches, church choirs and Christian radio stations. Dating Comeback: Meeting Singles in Church. Shoot for about 20 guests, with an even split between males and females. My relaxed outlook meant that the guy would also be more relaxed and free to discuss anything he wished without the threat of being rejected or bulldozed. It wasn't humorous not insightful. I asked him why.
I played the piano at a wedding for a couple who met through Catholic speed dating, so I knew there was at least some value to these events. There are other speed dating events in this area, but the woman who organized this one only does Catholic events… not that everyone there was a practicing Catholic, or Catholic at all. There are so many things that are important or even non-negotiables with people. I also trust that God controls what men see in me, and the feeling they are left with after meeting me. Not always easy, sometimes downright awful emotionally — but overall a great path to holiness at this time.
Ah, I see. I am on Catholic match too. I have not been making use of the part of the site to see events. I think I will pay attention to it now. I live very close to a major metropolitan area so maybe I can find things of interest going on. Thank you for sharing.
It sounds too orchestrated. And they were very matter-of-fact, or some of them were, about marriage. A practical necessity in the film. Paul even spoke about marriage in a way that seemed to be a practical way for living in grace possibly who the pilgrims might have emulated - slightly different to the film that portayed the practical reasons were material ones. You are speaking about relationships in a way that is neither aimed at a specific person or for practical reasons.
It seems to be a path where you might be setting yourself up for a fall. Emotions can oftentimes, as can our psychology can, be prone to attraction for people who are not good for us. This might be okay from a worldly perspective but from a Christian point-of-view spiritual discernment is important for every person, for the dignity of each person, to find out where the Lord might wish to lead them.
Maybe not but it still seems a bit forced - my opinion. Up to her. Wish the OP well however which way she goes. Guess you never know in these things. Except for three dates with a gentleman in early , I have not dated until the middle of this year.