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Building trust takes some time, but there are ways to get the ball rolling: Share something about yourself — giving trust is the best way to receive it. Talk to them about your family, your history, your dreams or goals, and your occasional worries or insecurities. Be dependable, on time, and helpful whenever you make a promise.
Ask a mutual friend for their opinion. Ask someone you can trust whether they think your friend has mutual feelings for you. Oftentimes an outside perspective can illuminate things that you might ignore or miss thanks to romantic notions. Be specific and honest when asking for advice: Avoid talking excessively about past relationships or other crushes.
You shouldn't avoid talking about your past relationships at all, as this can be a healthy way to get to know someone's romantic preferences and past life. However, you do not want to constantly complain about your exes or talk about how "perfect" you were together, as this can lead someone to think you aren't over your last girl or boyfriend. Remember that relationships are about more than physical attraction. They are a meeting between two people in all aspects - emotional, social, and physical. Spend time alone to see if you make a good couple.
One of the most common scenarios is when a crush develops within a larger group of friends. While there is nothing wrong with this, relationships rely on the ability to be alone with someone else, not always in a group. Ask them to help you get drinks, food, etc.
Sit across or next from them at the dinner table. Decide if you are willing to lose your friendship. Unfortunately, some people will not be able to return to being "just friends" after one person makes a move.
The attraction gets in the way, one side is thinking of what "could have been," and it becomes awkward to be alone. This does not mean, however, that you should not make a move. You need to be willing to risk a friendship for something more -- but if becoming a couple is important to you than this is a risk worth taking. Use open, romantic body language to signal your attraction.
Body language is often the forgotten branch of flirting, but it is a key way to tell someone you are interested. It also helps you see if they feel the same way. While everyone is different, there are a few gestures that universally signal attraction and respect: Turning shoulders and hips to face each other. Making clear, consistent eye contact. Expressing positive emotions with each other through facial expressions, such as by smiling. Fixing, brushing, or playing with hair and clothing. Mimicking posture or speech patterns.
Leaning in or close to each other. Turn up the heat with subtle flirting. This is a great way to get them thinking about romance. As you try the following tips, ask yourself how they respond—do they shy away or laugh it off? If so, they may want to stay friends. However, if they respond with similar behavior, make good eye contact, or make romantic gestures of their own, you may have found a match. To start the flirting: Make eye contact and smile. Smiling is proven to be the most effective flirting technique you have. Use genuine compliments to make them feel good. Everyone loves being complimented, and it shows someone that you care.
Sitting and thinking about asking someone out is not only excruciating, it is detrimental to your chances at starting a relationship. Once you are sure you want to take this to the next level, get them alone and go for it. Any answer will be better than no answer at all. Remember this as you muster up the courage to ask the question. Pull them aside or ask them on a casual date and say: Would you want to go on a few dates?
I would love the chance to get to know you even more on a date.
Just go for it! Avoid grand professions of love. Instead, opt for sincere, respectful comments. No matter how you feel, telling someone that "they are the only one for you" and that they "complete you" will only scare them away by turning the dial from friendship to relationship too quickly. Keep your calm, and be respectful but sincere when you talk. Some things to consider saying are: Accept the answer you are given. If they feel the same way, then you're about to start your relationship together.
But if they say no it's time to move on and start getting over your feelings. Continually asking them out, begging for another chance, or giving them the cold-shoulder will prevent your friendship from returning. If you think you can be friends again, you'll still need to spend some time alone.
Try not to hang out for several weeks and see what happens when you return. Though you shouldn't expect to be best friends, time can help you get over your feelings and return to friendship.
Know, however, that some people struggle to return to friendship after romance. This is unfortunately a risk you will need to take. Communicate your expectations early in the relationship.
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So how do you go from friendship to relationship? If you really are friends then whatever happens, you two can communicate and weather the storm. Love is a delicate thing and building any loving relationship takes time. It can take even longer with friends, as expectations are higher and fear of losing a friend is great.
A client of mine told me that she was planning to set her guy friend up with a girlfriend of hers. She told me this guy was great! She had a few reasons, none of which I found valid. I helped script the following message which she sent to him: I know that I was going to set you up with Katy but I was wondering if you would like to grab a coffee with me at some point. I feel like we have a lot in common. Let me know your thoughts.
What was his reply? Going from friendship to relationship requires you to work on showing you care even more than a friend. Do one thing weekly that shows you care more than just a friend. You can write a handwritten note or card, or buy a small present that shows you were thinking of them. Reassure your partner that you want this relationship. Since you started out as friends your level of trust and open communication should be more developed.
You probably already have the foundation for speaking openly and honestly with each other, but since you are in a relationship now, both parties are likely to be vulnerable and afraid of being hurt or losing a friend.
Coupled with any lingering romantic feelings between you two, you have a mixture that makes friendship difficult if not impossible. More success stories All success stories Hide success stories. Is there a future? What was his reply? A strong friendship is often the best base for a strong relationship. Our editor needs it in case we have a question about your comment.
I recommend reassuring your partner once a week for the first three months that you want this relationship. Tell them that you are glad you took the next step and are now dating. Being open about your emotions will relieve any worry and also help you to create an emotional bond on a deeper level. Share your hopes and dreams. Speaking about your potential future together will hopefully strengthen your bond. Additionally, it will clear up any misconceptions you have. Sometimes we think we know someone better than we actually do. Family who may have only thought of you as a friend need to know that your status has changed.
Having family on board with your relationship will deepen the bond and make the friend status disappear. Have you ever seen those couples who are so cute? Some say that couples who play together stay together. Strive to be like those couples. Partner up with your new date and stay side by side.