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He let his life go, abandoning all of his hobbies and passions and instantly replaced me with her. How do men just do a overnight, and completely change their lives without looking back? I must note I spoke recently to his family and parents and they are just as baffled as anyone else as to why he quit all of his hobbies, his job, etc.
Any answers or help would be greatly appreciated.
Anyone been through this? Did their ex-come back? Did they ever move on and find happiness without them? Even if he did come back he will do the same thing again. Your trust and respect has gone but it takes time for love to say farewell. That will come with time. Over the years there must have been signs but love accepts everything. He moved the goalposts when it suited him and may move them back because there is no way his relationship is going to last with an 18 year old. Men who envision lasting futures want to be married. Change is needed in life, always. We need change to wake us up and shake us, so we can move in another direction, another path in our lives.
Wake me up for my real purpose here on Earth. I hope you can resonate with what I have said. Thank you for your amazing insights and comments everyone. It has helped me to see a different viewpoint from people who know neither of us, but honestly helps a lot with each of your specific points made in reply to my post. Although they seemed minute and non-threatening to our relationship at the time, I ignored these signs for many years, to simply keep the peace, and keep my ex happy, instead of facing them, discussing them as they came up, or was just afraid that they would spark an argument that would push him away.
My therapist has made very valid points, and has opened my eyes through intense therapy. That indeed this man I was with for all of these years, is possibly a narcissist, who could also have borderline personality disorder. And now that the fog has cleared and all of the initial sadness and withdrawal of him being in my life has stopped, I can clearly see it all.
Thanks for helping me to see different sides of the coin from all of your comments! Is not your problem if she is 18 or 22 if she likes him and they have communication is not a big deal. I've heard the best age woman for a man is someone half his age, plus seven years. And that was from two women I worked with. Just google "half your age plus seven" and you'll see it's a common phrase. So that means I need a girl who's 27 or so Maybe someone inquisitive in the 25 to 29 year old bracket, a brunette.
Wonder who fits that bill? We need to balance the scales of life, here. She's hot or she's really awesome to hang out with. Like I mean I would go out with her and she would make my day kind of girl! Another things is too your might couldve been too dominant of a woman an less submissive like women should be An not knowing you're not could have intimated his inner masculinity Which sometimes tends to kill sometimes if not all the time us men self esteem An he felt like he couldn't take the lead in the relationship because of it So there for like the 1st opinion said We date younger women to make us feel more in control of the relationship Now as far as financially crashing off the deep in with having a younger woman He probably just not ready to take his life or career searching serious as you were at the time Dating a younger woman give him time to play more But he's not realizing he wasting time Honestly I would rather have a woman who is a team player than Because I feel like you'll get more accomplished as a team faster vs doing it by oneself It isn't like she was 18 or Who cares, she's young.
When you're a man at that age, you get your pick of the litter. When I was 16, all the girls dated guys years old.
my boyfriend and I broke up after years together. he had been texting a new girl behind my back. he acted as if he was upset about the break up but a week. However, just by observing friends, family and recalling my o. The ex-boyfriend on the other hand has less stock than she does - he doesn't make as much money as an older man What's it like to be a man dating a much younger woman?.
You girls started it. I say that because 21 year olds are obviously legal to drink and its tough to date someone you can't take to the bar with you. We are allowed to drink at By the way, it is a question of maturity, no doubt. Maybe the girl is very mature, you don't know Sorry, but plenty of girls that age aren't very different mentally from girls in late twenties.
And they're a lot hotter. I know women hate it and look down at it when men their age get younger women--but that's just how it is, something men can and often will do. And according to reports, it's awesome, lmao. If you agreed with it, I would be shocked. Women hate it when men their age date younger girls, because they must.
It's a hatred borne of need.
If men your age, late twenties, all decided to chase younger women when they hit the age to marriage, it would spell a lot of trouble for single women who didn't marry early. As much as girls will down-vote me: That, and if you can get a younger girl, as a guy He makes a point I am actually a very good looking girl myself and have a lot of guys asking me out.
I just want to know what a guy his age would have in common with a girl that age! P I think its disgusting. The girl was only asking about his thought process From the looks of it you are either a multiple account of the QA bengi or just as petty, jealous and judgmental.
I don't think its any of your business,your broke up so you should move on for your own sake. I'm 21 dating a 26 year old. Sometimes my maturity surpasses his. You cannot judge saying he just wants young boot because you do not know her.
Personally you sound jealous. But on the other hand if she knew he just came out of a relationship, she should know she's a rebound. I think you should forget it and move on, he has.
I have a sister who is 22 and even she thinks it's messed up. I don't know I'm sorry. He probably wanted a 'yes' girl. The only thing I can think from HER point of view is that he is an older, good looking guy, has his own place and maybe she thinks its 'cool'. I've got stuff in my bf's but it was gradual lol.
More like 2 years We both have our own place though in our case. IMHO, let her find out, she will for sure if he's truly a loser, and seeing that he aimed so low on the age range. I didn't even bring my stuff here until at least a yr! My guy did just the opposite. He's 28, I'm 27 and the woman he dated before me is almost She was a little bytch who cheated and lied and cheated and lied, basically broke his heart. He says now he's happy to be with someone 'on his level' and that losing her was the best thing that ever happened to him.
Unless this young lady is really mature for her age, he'll hit it then quit it pretty quick because he'll decide dealing with her bullshyte isn't worth having a cute young thing on his arm. What could a guy his age have in common with someone that young? Probably little if he's at the healthy development phase for his age however that likely doesn't matter to him as in my observations guys pay far more attention to a gal's youth and beauty than what they have in common with her.
Is it only for booty?
Likely he mainly wants her for booty however he wants a relationship with her to be more than booty as guys seem to prize and value having a younger partner so they tend to put more effort in the relationship. What substance is there?
Probably little substance though he as guys tend to prefer much younger than gals their own age or gals older than themselves. I'm 20 and In a serious relationship with with a 41 year old man.. I can't imagine being with anyone else. My life is not in any way restricted by this difference.. I am still able to find my own path. I'm happier than I've ever been.
Your ex might be dating her for arm candy, but there could also be some real substance.