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That's what first and second dates are for -- get a feel for the person. You just have to keep going on dates until you click with someone. If they try to touch me too much or talk about sex I'm probably going to be more weirded out and turned off than not. Yeah I agree on this, but I feel like it's my general lack of being playful or teasing enough to build the attraction. First of all, don't talk about sex. Sex is not a first or second date thing if your looking for a relationship. Sex is a conversation for later. Touching, not really a first date thing, but as for a second date, your touching should be light and non-committal.
What I mean about that is she should be able to easily move out of whatever touch you are doing. Examples of how to approach touching: If your leading her somewhere and about to turn a corner, you can put your hand on the small of her back and apply slight pressure to indicate the turn.
You can open yourself for a hug when you meet up for the second time. These are all examples of open ended touching that doesn't feel grabbing or controlling. So no long hugs. Also recognize that when hand holding you aren't attached at a leash. It is okay to let go of her hand if she goes one way and you want to go another.
That's a lot harder to describe.
Get that adrenaline going. Especially the more left-brain dominant, technical guys you know who you are! From the wording of your post it is clear you already know what to do. I'm not particularly good at that part. How do you tease and mock them?
She doesn't know when you are being serious and when you are joking, and teasing in a different tone can be mean and hurtful. Kinda like the difference between laughing with someone and laughing at someone. Make it light and fun.
Despite what Disney wants you to believe, women are sexual creatures just like men. They don't want to date a guy who has not sexual. As long as you talk about sex in the right way, there's no real reason to avoid it. Not only will it make you look like a sexual person which is incredibly important , but it will make you feel closer.
When you talk about sex with people, it makes them feel like they actually know you, as opposed to when you talk about the weather or work. I'm not saying sex is not a conversation to have, just not exactly an appropriate one on a first or second date. Personally, I find talking about sex to be crude with acquaintances and casual friends, which is what a first date is at best. I prefer sensuality and intimacy to get the blood flowing and moving the dates in a forward direction.
Hinting and flirting with the idea of the future rather than the stark nakedness of straight talking. But, that's all my opinion and I've been wrong before.
What is the right way to talk about sex? Maybe I'm being too base and crass in my mind of what "sex talk" is about. In my mind, talk about us having sex is bad until we actually do it, or saying something like "I like your boobs". Good sex talk is something like "Was your last boyfriend any good in bed? Of course, you should say stuff that makes sense in the context of the conversation, so "Hi nice to meet you. So, how's your sex life? Everyone that meets me thinks I'm a nice guy.
I know I have a lot to offer a potential mate. I'm confident in who I am as a person, it's just I don't know how to tease or be playful enough. So I'm looking for advice and examples of how to tease properly. But really, how do you joke around or have fun with your guy friends?
First date is typically coffee or drinks. Second date is dinner and ice cream. I usually kiss at end of date 2. I just try to kiss everyone. Sometimes it works sometimes it doesn't. If it doesn't at least they are thinking about it for date two.
But I don't like coffee dates. I plan dates where we are walking around doing stuff. Use of this site constitutes acceptance of our User Agreement and Privacy Policy.
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Become a Redditor and subscribe to one of thousands of communities. I need help with building attraction on my dates that I get from OkCupid. Which means we like people when they like what we say. The idea is to get gradually more intimate as the conversation progresses.
Here are some examples. This question opens the door, ever so slightly, to sexual attraction. Especially if you ask this with a cheeky smile. This is a great way to bring up the topic of sex without reaaaally talking about sex. Really this question is more about adventure, adrenaline and risk-taking.
Many awesome people don't end up together because of botched up communication. Here's some great advice from the dating experts. Don't fret just Talk. 6 Ways to Build Attraction and Connection During Conversations. Nick In other words, women are usually casual and laid-back on dates.
Many times, women start asking questions in the beginning of a date. When they ask questions at the beginning of your date, it might be because they are being socially savvy.
They want to get the conversation going. This is a trap that most men fall into. They start answering all her questions and let her lead the conversation. You always need to lead the conversation toward your purpose.
Your purpose could be to connect with her, to create attraction, to create sexual tension, to get to know her and see if she meets your standards, etc. Always keep your purposes in the back of your mind and lead toward them. Listen the right way. Conclusion Conversations are a vital part of dating.