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When you have your own interests , it helps a lot.
An alpha female is her own person, and much of the time, she likes a partner who is their own person. When you have your interests, you can entertain yourself and you are less likely to get jealous when your partner is engrossed in a big project or goes out to lunch with a friend. That goes a long way with an alpha female who wants her own space sometimes, and who is driven to the point where she wants to accomplish her goals before turning her attention to you.
After making a ton of decisions throughout the day, an alpha female might not want to decide where to go for dinner. Making another decision, or trying to people for another minute if your alpha is also an introvert , can feel exhausting. Instead, be ready to make decisions. At the very least, narrow it down to two or three options. You can also suggest activities for the both of you.
She might want to do something with you, but not have to make the plans.
However, many men I date feel uncomfortable with me once they start talking to me. I make a pretty decent living, and mostly get to do what I want, when I want. They get upset when I try to pay for my own meal and especially theirs. If you decide to date an alpha female, try not to feel threatened.
If I ask someone on a date, I expect to pay. It gets worse if I actually make more money than them. They will talk in the same voice tone. They even will laugh for the same amount of time as the alpha does. By the way, alpha female behavior is harder to spot in a group of males and females—males confuse the female attention spans. Another way you can spot the alpha female of a group is by watching how each group member exits.
This is means I am opinionated, outspoken and overworked. That isn't the type of person an alpha female is interested in anyway. You'll find out a lot about this in our Dating & Dollars series, but I see money in. There has been some recent media focus on the Alpha Female and it has become apparent that, in the dating world, the more confident, dominant ladies could.
However, when THE alpha female and there can be only one, see below for details you will see something odd happen. Either conversation stops completely and the group members look around expectantly for a new alpha, or the group disperses. It is more of a spectrum.
Some women have a high tendency to be alpha.
Some women only like being female alphas in their home, but not in the business environment. Some women are only social alphas around certain groups of friends. On a ten point scale she might be a seven or a four, for example. What happens when two alpha females are in the same office? Or, maybe two words: The alpha female with the higher degree of alpha-ness usually takes charge and the second alpha female backs down.
Well, she seethes, plots revenge and then backs down. In social groups most of the female drama comes when two alpha females are competing to be the social conductor and non-alpha females or alpha females to a lesser degree are not sure who to follow. We all have experienced whether we knew it or not a group without an alpha female.
Alpha females actually have the very important role of social lubrication. She may be confident about her own skin, but she is never cocky or condescending because she talks, acts, and thinks without any intention of demeaning others.
An alpha female is naturally driven and passionate about all the things she cares about. Which is why she has no trouble giving her all to ensure that she will be successful in everything she sets her mind to; whether it involves achieving her life goals, excelling in her career, or engaging in a meaningful relationship.
Her drive comes from within, as she is motivated to succeed for its own sake. Given that an alpha female is intrinsically motivated, she is not easily discouraged when faced with setbacks and problems. Try watching romcom movies that feature a high school jock whose girlfriend worships everything about him, including the ground he walks in. An alpha female has certain beliefs and she has serious reasons why she holds on to them, which is why it is almost impossible to sway her. Nonetheless, she is not completely inconsiderate not to get engaged in a compromise if it is absolutely necessary and unavoidable.
Many romantic relationships are filled with drama and petty issues because many girlfriends do not know how to effectively communicate how they feel or they are too afraid that their partner would get upset and eventually leave them. They become relationship martyrs who whine, and keep problems to themselves until they eventually blow up. An alpha female is nothing like them, considering that she calls it as she sees it. She clearly knows if there is a problem that needs addressing, or if her boyfriend is just giving her a hard time.
An alpha girlfriend is sensible and rational, which is why she has no trouble leaving her partner if the relationship is truly lacking substance. Conflicts and problems are normal in any romantic relationships.
While other women would turn to denial as a defence mechanism, not only to protect the relationship but also to protect their ego from getting hurt, an alpha female will never run away or deny that a problem exists. When conflicts and issues arise, she will tackle them head on and without pretension, because she believes that you cannot properly deal with a problem if you are not honest enough to admit what it is really about.
Most women struggle to find and maintain steady, meaningful relationships because they have difficulty managing their own emotions and relating to other people.
An alpha female has no such issue considering that she has high emotional intelligence. This means she has the ability to control her emotions, to see through the actions of others, and to rationally weigh the pros and cons of any situation. As a person with superior EQ, she has great control and discernment of proper and most rational behavior. This strength of hers enables an alpha female to clearly see if a relationship worth saving or if her boyfriend is worth dumping.
An alpha woman is not scared of anything apart from wasting time and not living her life to the fullest; which is why she is always full of energy and life. Unlike some women who are prone to whining and complaining about their day, the moment they meet their partners an alpha girlfriend always sees the bright side of things, and hardly ever spends her time sulking in front of her boyfriend.
Most girlfriends act like parole officers because they demand to be regularly updated about what their boyfriends are doing or their current whereabouts.