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If a man is a sweet-talker who always says what he thinks will make you happy even if he doesn't necessarily think it , he may be trying to manipulate you and play around with you emotionally. Another crucial way to analyze whether a man is a player or not is by observing his social circle.
If he doesn't appear to have any meaningful friendship relationships, but instead only has a lot of casual contacts and acquaintances, it could point to him being a player. Take note of how many female buddies he has. If the amount greatly surpasses that of his male pals, you may just have a player on your hands. If you are dating a man who has an insanely-packed social calendar and hardly ever can be found, then he may be a player.
If most of the time you are not even aware of who he is socializing with, it could be because he has other special women in his life. Also, if a man never seems to invite you to any of his social obligations or events, it may be a sign that he is going with someone else or simply wants to flirt with strangers and not be seen in public with a steady girlfriend. If a man has a tough time keeping track of things he said to you, and behaves in an inconsistent manner, it could be because he is a player.
As well-versed as a man may be in the art of telling untruths, it is inevitable that he will occasionally have a blunder. One example is telling you that he has plants to go to a friend's birthday party, and later saying that it is a work function.
If you notice a pattern in that your boyfriend only has time for you on weekdays, and that his weekends always seem mysteriously jam-packed, it may be a sign that he has other women that he "saves" for the weekend. One sign of a player is moving fast in a relationship, especially when it comes to the physical.
If a man is always much more concerned with establishing a physical connection with you rather than an emotional one, it could be because he simply doesn't care about getting to know you in a deep way, as hard as that may be to accept. If your boyfriend is way too attached to his cell phone and is always firing off mysterious text messages and receiving them from other people , or if you try to call him and he never seems to pick up for you, it could mean that is a player.
If your boyfriend's social networking profiles are mysteriously sparse and do not mention anything about your relationship with him from pictures to a relationship status , it could be that he is trying to maintain the impression that he is single in order to encourage the interest of other women. If you have never met any of your boyfriend's closest friends and family, it may be because he doesn't take his relationship with you seriously. One of the easiest way to spot a player is by the amount of time he spends online.
If you met your potential player online and find yourself reading his profile as 'active within the last 24 hours' three months into the relationship, you might want to reconsider his commitment to you. If he's not online but spends more time on Whatsapp than a year-old girl excited about an impending One Direction concert?
Don't say I don't warn you. Players love the company of women, enjoy spending time with them and cannot understand why a person would deny themselves the pleasure of more than one.
By contrast, he has few male friends - not understanding why you'd have a person in your life who you couldn't potentially have sex with. Or at least that's what he'll tell you. Don't expect to meet a player's friends or family anytime soon - they do not mix business with pleasure.
Dating is a jungle filled with both danger and opportunity and it isn't easy telling Players are different from bad boys because they use deception to seduce. People who have been single for a long time, are lonely or are struggling with their own self-esteem are particularly vulnerable to falling for a player but really.
While he's pursuing you, a player will want to focus on the prize aka you naked in his bed and once he's won you I found it quite shocking. My confidence skyrocketed and my neediness disappeared. The shocking thing was that women now treated me differently as they have a much more refined intuition. Just see their signals which become easier and more obvious , then confidently lead them through seduction. Women are harshly judged by everybody for their sexuality. Other men are so desperate for sex that they judge, cling and tell the world. Women are so much more savvy and intuitive than men, because they have to be.
They now categorise me and willingly invite me. Beware of players if you want monogamy, but a lot of women are too clever for that and they know exactly what they want. And with them you have the most fun. There is just a hate campaign against them by women who, a: Then there is c: Or is that jealousy that other women have sexual fun. Due to a-c above.
And perhaps also that these same women are so attracted to these guys, the player never sees the cool side of her that other people do. How could he fall in love? Thanks for what seems to be a truly honest and insightful comment while maintaining respect for more than one point of view.
A lot if women like myself prefer monogamy but if a guy can be upfront about this then he will much more likely earn the respect of anyone. Its the cheating and the lying which brings about the drama — and women can be good at drama! My boyfriend on the other side is a very attractive men with a lot of values and as i see and as he shows it,he is crazily in love with me.
Red flages include mostly him keeping a gallery of his ex girlfriend on his phone year after a breakup toxic relationship but very intense , accepting gift from her which she sent him recently to his home! But the issue that also concerns me the most is that even though he is not seeing his ex, i think he may secretly still think about her, and its enough to me to leave him. I see it, i feel it,he show this in every other way and its good between us.
Should i finish this as a matter of precaution already now?
I will be thankful for any reply. Not sure when this article was written.. Too many wolves in sheep clothing these days. I doubt the media or social pressure is the reasoning for all this. I feel players stem from 1 of the 3: These guys still have a conscience. They like knowing someone else is hurting like they are inside. These guys show emotion, they still give and are eager to please you. The only way to catch them in the act, is by looking into their phone or browse through their social media contacts.
These guys are cheap and like to keep things local. Meaning they like to keep all their victims close to home. They are quick to introduce most victims to their family and friends.
They also like to invite their victims to family gatherings. They do so because they get comfortable too easily. You can usually catch them in the act if you stake out their home. Also, these players normally have crazy exes hanging around.. These types have no shame flirting with others, right in front of their victim. They will also hit on someone else right in front of their victim…. If the victim stays, prepare to be a doormat! If a player is all 3 of these, which some men are.. These guys are normally considered womanizers or abusive.
Would you mind iif I share your blog with my zynga group? Please let me know. Im a Player, stalking online to find information about how to avoid being declared as a player by women. Nonetheless, ladies, forget changing the player. You will spare yourself a big deal of pain and anxiety. But i dont get your problem, players are usually great in bed, even being around one makes a lady wet.
And you know this. Just take it easy and enjoy your free ride to pleasure city.
Hey Player, Tell me smth then please. However, if you want to, we can discuss the situation, but for that I require more information. Here are my thoughts how this situation happened: Since I knew he was a player from the beginning and I chose to take a risk by myself, I accepted to play by his rules. We never had a real relationship.
I never pushed him into that.
We were meeting only because both wanted to spend time together. There were no commitment from any side so there were no scandals, fights, questions where or with whom have you been and things like that. That leads to number 3.