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Maybe you can get more specific. What type of food do you like? Where would you like to travel to? Many profiles are over the top with academic qualifications and professional degrees. While these are big factors we take into account for marriage in our culture, for me and possibly other men, the talk about your career and achievements makes me think you prioritize this more than other aspects of your life. Also, it makes me think that I can never measure up or keep up with your career and profession.
I do not have all these desired qualities, and I doubt many guys are going to get all of those checkmarks. A tall, handsome doctor who is emotionally resilient, a good cook and great with kids is already married with kids in high school. Desi dating sites are the best place, and by that I mean the absolute worst place, to list all the undesirable qualities of your exes.
Filling your profile with negative traits and bad habits of other men is an instant turn-off. You sound like you have a super awesome life filled with work, working out, family, travel, food, and friends. How do I fit into this picture?
Dating as a Brown Girl: This is probably one of the biggest turn-offs ever. We all are busy. Why should I be at your beck and call? If she wants to respond to you, she will. In this society people who are assigned female at birth AFAB are often socialized to give people their time and be polite to people who are bothering them.
This is especially true if you live in the same city and run in the same social circles. So please, do us all a favor and take a hint: If you're not in a position to pay a monthly fee to use a dating site or app, that's totally fine. But for those of you who have money to blow on frivolous purchases but who are still using free sites, it's worth asking why you don't do yourself a favor and invest a little in your dating experience.
Using a reputable paid site, like one of the well-reviewed ones below, can save you a lot of hassle in the long run — you won't have to weed out fake profiles or people who aren't looking for what you are. Zoosk is AskMen's top-rated online dating option, and for a reason.
Boasting an easy-to-use site with state-of-the-art features and a booming community of singles, it's a strong contender if you're looking for just one dating site to sign up for in your quest for love. Match is about as classic as it comes in the online dating world, as the brand has been around since the late '90s.
Far from some dusty relic, however, the site has kept pace with the times and stands as one of the best of the bunch, offering users a brand name they can trust. It creates an impression in a male reader that you will hardly be available to go out and that you will never be able to develop any meaningful connection with the guy.
Remember, dating sites are not designed to display your familial situation. They are meant to help people meet each other and create romantic connections.
You are not on that site to find a babysitter or even a roommate. You are there to meet a guy who you could go out with, learn about each other and find out if you are interested in each other romantically. Keep that in mind when you write your profile and post your photos. If all your photos have you and five other girls being drunk at a bar making faces at each other, you better consider posting some new photos that put some more serious light on who you are and how you live your life.
Ideally, you should have a close-up photo of your face and a full body image which shows, without being overly revealing, the shape of your body.
You cannot go wrong with having a full-body photo in a business casual attire or even jeans and tank top if it flatters your body. Sooner or later, you will have to show the rest of your body to the guy, so why waste your time or his? For some reason, quite a few women out there think that telling the world about how much they dislike men who are unemployed, thugs, liars, cheaters is going to make them sound all the more attractive.
What it says to the male reader is that the reason you mention all these deal breakers is because you have been there and done that.