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It was just one of the biggest dry spells I had and all I wanted was to be adored and wined and dined.
Why was it so hard? I didn't think I was ugly and I do usually have some confidence when it comes to dating.
Research shows that since , three times as many toyear-olds have started using online dating. In , 10% of this age group reported using online . With the stigma of online dating diminishing and the number of users growing, expert April Masini to find the best dating websites for 20s aka millennials.
It wasn't until after venting with my mother of all people, where she swore to me how good it was to online date when you really just don't have the time to put yourself out there in real life. This coming from the mom already made me embarrassed and the fact that she was giving me dating advice altogether made me feel like I hit an all time low.
But what the hell, I had nothing to loose and I was living somewhere where no one knew me. So on I went, looking up the most suitable social media dating sites, just advertising myself and throwing myself in the gauntlet of online dating. I did my research and it seemed like the cool thing to do was, at 23 years old, go on OkCupid. It was less embarrassing than going on others and full committing and paying a monthly fee.
Because still, I was embarrassed as it was. I really didn't know what to expect. I put a few pictures up, answered all those ridiculous questions and I just waited until I got a bite. And boy did I get a bite. It was extremely overwhelming. I was getting over emails a day from the most random and creepy people. I won't say that they were all creepy; there were few hopefuls but it felt like all these dudes in my age demographic was using these sites to essentially get people in bed.
And that wasn't the reason I was doing it. I have a bit more self-respect than that. I took the opportunity that some decent guys offered me and I actually went on dates with people from the Internet. I still felt really weird about it but I really had nothing to lose, maybe except my life, because who the heck knows who these people really are any way. Ladies, I shouldn't have to say this because you should already know this, but if you are going on an online date you need to meet in a public setting and have your friend on speed dial just in case you have to get out of there!
That's exactly what I did. Hell, I still dive on and I'm 20, not as much as I did when I was 18 mind, but I still keep up with some of my friends on there. They are useful tools, however. Being able to limit down people in an area you can reach and with OKCupid you go through a set of questions and it matches you to like three people pretty much every day.
Usually, though, it likes to put those people miles away. Back a year ago, I'd put the range to like fifty miles and it started putting matches up in London, Cornwall, even Norther Ireland and Shetland a couple of times. But overall sites like that are pretty decent.
Like Lucia and Kayliegh said, you aren't too young and they are great for meeting nice people, even if nothing happens, you meet someone new and nice and have a laugh. Report 6 years ago 5. Original post by Anonymous This is an idea I've been toying with for a while, but I wanted to get as many people's opinions as possible before going further with it. Report 6 years ago 6. No you have to be attractive to do succesful on a dating site, I'm afraid. It's even worst at a younger age. Women will ignore your messages for a variety of reasons as they can't see your personality for what it is or they dont like your pictures, height, job, ambitions etc.
A teacher was 5ft 8 and she ignored me but contacted my friend and met. Except he brought me out so it was a night out drinking. In the end she wore high heels and was shorter than me and I'm 5ft 7 and she ended up liking me over my friend which I felt bad about. But online dating is free so you got nothing to lose But don't expect an increase in confidence, actually expect a decrease in confidence. Even the most handsome guys get turned down.
Of course that was from a guys perspective. If you're an average looking girl you'll get bombarded with messages from guys unable to get attractive girls. Messages from rude to decent.
Report 6 years ago 7. I've also been on OkCupid, I'm I deleted my account as I wasn't entirely sure what I wanted out of it.
I often talked myself out of meeting up with people. My advice if you do join is to try and not fall into the generic male on dating websites. For example on OkCupid it tells you how frequently somebody responds for messages. For girls, it is almost always 'very selectively' whilst for guys its the complete opposite. I think girls become a lot fussier on the website, and can get bombarded with messages, so we just decide which ones we will reply to and which ones we won't.
Here's a heads up; if I got a message from someone saying "Hi hows u", I wouldn't respond. And am I really going to reply saying anything other than 'good thanks you? So my advice is, write a little on your profile, but not too much. And if your going to message a girl, read her profile first. If anything interests you, maybe message her something related to it, just try and say something original! Report 6 years ago 8.
I met my current boyfriend on a dating site, i'm 20 and he's It worked really well for us, so why not give it a go. Report 6 years ago 9. All dating site as sausage-fests,it's full of guys chasing a handful of 'normal' women,the rest are mentals or fake profiles. Also you have to compete with all these nauseatingly good profiles and handsome pictures of guys. Yep they all look like male models and are surgeons and spend their holidays in Uganda caring for sick orphans etc.
My advice - give up, die lonely, embrace it. Report 6 years ago Original post by snozzle All dating site as sausage-fests,it's full of guys chasing a handful of 'normal' women,the rest are mentals or fake profiles. Original post by Michaelj No you have to be attractive to do succesful on a dating site, I'm afraid. Hey I don't think there's anything wrong with it at all, why not! They found Match better than the free dating sites because obviously you're paying to be on there, meaning you're perhaps a bit more serious about finding someone than those on free sites.
Having said that my housemate recently went on a date with a great guy she met on Plenty of Fish, which is free. Original post by S. It is well known that girls have the choice of whoever they want to go out with but in real life that is limited by the size of their social circle so they would only have say 5 guys to choose from.
Online however, they have the choice of thousands of guys so just like monetary inflation the 'value' of each guy goes down i. Therefore that is why I think online dating does not work unless there is a shortage of men. This is why mail order brides work. There is a shortage of eligible men in their home country and only a few Western men willing to take on the expense and time required to go through the process that for most men who signs up to a mail order service they stand a good chance of finding someone.
I joined one when I was I also thought at the time that it was a bit young, but then again I wanted to give it a go and the minimum age for it is 18 anyway so I thought why not. It hasn't worked for me so far though so I've stopped for now, but when I was on it I saw plenty of year olds of both genders on it. Yes, some people will judge you for using online dating, but who cares?
It's your life so just do what you want.