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Raising a family together is hard work, and sometimes marriage and relationships don't survive.
But splitting up when there are kids involved is even harder. Parent24's dignifieddivorce series is here to help parents navigate the legal and emotional implications of a divorce.
People who choose to get married never quite think that their fairy-tale wedding and romantic honeymoon would, ultimately, lead to a divorce. It may not be in the proverbial cards, but realistically people evolve, and after the dust has settled, some things might change in the marriage and relationship.
And if there are continuous disagreements, destructive behaviour and tension, it might be time to look into the dreaded "d" word: divorce. Much like getting married, getting divorced is a legal process that needs to be recognised and granted by a court of law. If the relationship has disintegrated to such a point that it cannot be restored and there is no feasible future of it being restored , then a court may grant a decree of divorce. Again, the law - specifically the Divorce Act 70 of — does stipulate certain circumstances that a court is likely to accept as irreversible damage to a marriage:.
Do note: if the couple tries counselling and it is unsuccessful, they may approach the court and proceed with the divorce using the initial summons. Former Isibaya actor Andile Gumbi dies after suffering heart attack.
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But it gets easier, and the only way to the other side is to walk through the fire on your own. There are stereotypes of divorced men and women who leap at the chance to hitch themselves to the first potential date to cross their paths. But those stories inevitably lead to heartbreak and failure down the road.
You may have spent years as a parent and a spouse when you had to place your needs last in order to appease others. It is only when you have the space and time to breathe that you will begin to see your reflection in the mirror as who you truly are. Who are you when you remove those demands and titles?
Only you can respond to that question, and it takes some time to know the answer.
No other man or woman will heal you. Only you can accomplish that 2. You have to grieve the emotional investment before you can move forward Divorce is a loss, and you need to grieve it as such.
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Know that this is okay and that your timeline is unique to your own experience, and you need to honour it. Realise that if you feel pain, it is evidence that you loved and invested in the relationship, which is nothing to be ashamed of, but take your time to grieve that loss. You need to feel whole spiritually and emotionally before moving forward, or your next relationship will be doomed before it even begins.
It will show you that you can weather the storm on your own without clinging to another person. My confidence as a woman has increased exponentially as a result of my time on my own.