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I don't judge age gaps unless it's abusive, but in the end I'm glad I didn't end up with a 21 year old. Me too, I don't if I'm "immature" but I simply don't find the stable job-mortgage-family holiday paradigm that a lot of people my age are into. With the age gap there is a difference in perspectives that can be refreshing. I appreciate the dedication I see in many younger people to stay active and healthy. Locally, I do not see that as much from people as they get closer to 30 and after.
I focus heavily on my health and do not want to be around someone who is a bad influence on my gym habits. This is a huge factor for me. This thread is really stressing me out! It seems like I only have a couple more years to be attractive before I become a second-rate partner: I feel the same way, it's like that okc graph that said that from , the prefered age for men is always like for women.
I have more in common with women who are 5+ years younger than I, and my lifestyle and interests are such that I have an easier time meeting. The ones that were significantly older (10/20+ years) than me were generally better in bed (due to more aggregate years of sexing) and not so.
Problem is I don't want to be married yet but clearly I'm not going to be desirable forever! I want to focus on my career and travel but geez apparently it's going to impact my romantic life. Im in the same boat!
Better get going with that anti-aging creams.. They say be smart, be sucessfull ect.. I do all of this stuff and I'm pretty confident I'm going to look young well into my thirties, but it is a hard truth that I won't always be as attractive as I am now!
No you don't have to be "be smart, be sucessfull " it, in fact, makes you harder to date. Welcome to the show. Do women seriously not know this? Would explain a lot. Yeh, I mean focusing on your career makes you too "desirable" you'll never settle for someone who is more than just looks because you have those things. Don't worry about it! There's just as many threads where young men want a MILF. There's someone for everyone: Uhh so your options for being valued as a partner are "hot sexy young woman" or "milf" and that's it?? Well, in late 30's and 40's you can get the early 20's guys.
Lots of guys are into older and more mature women. To be fair tho, I don't think it's the case for every guy. I know a lot of men who just want to find love and eventually settle down and have a family, I don't think these guys are neceseraly looking for someone younger. I'm 34, but a late bloomer that looks a lot younger. I date women in their early 20s because that's what I find attractive.
The flip side of course is, I feel like there's a lot more pressure with women my age.
I can take a younger woman to my one bedroom apartment, furnished with art work and hand-crafted tables I created myself and they are often impressed. No judgement or prying inquiry as to my income, etc. I'm 30 and I generally date women 25 and younger. While the general trend is that they are in better shape, I'm finding more and more people are really getting into exercise so that's not always the case. More importantly is that younger women are less likely to want to settle down immediately, which aligns more with what I'm looking for in a relationship.
I'm not planning on getting married in 5 years, maybe not even 10, so if a 30 year old woman is looking to get married before she's 35, we're not going to be compatible. I think there is another big one that I didn't see mentioned. Men want to feel needed and appreciated.
Younger women are more likely to need help, support, and more importantly appreciate it. You heard from older women "I don't need a man, I can take care of myself" and then wonder why they can't find a man, when they are literally stating the reason themselves. That's sour grapes a lot of the time. I've been in that mindset a few times as a guy myself. Im a woman and i really like my bf and i's dynamic.
I dont think gender roles are that bad of a thing. I dont think chivalry ahould be condemned. He fills the male role in my life, he cares for me, loves me, shows me he cares through actions like fixing my computer and helping me train at the gym. I fill the female role in terms of being nurturing, feminine and caring- and i think this functions well. In life as a woman i can be quite dominating and other women in groups always turn to me, wheb others address my group they address me, i tend to feel quite masculine so far as in to say that i cant relate to very feminine females around me.
My bf makes me feel like a woman and its glorious. I find 32 year old women attractive. I dated a lot of people. This one's the current one though. And probably going to be the last person I date honestly. I really like her. It's not because she's young. But because she's in the same position as me. We both have jobs that require us to work strange hours. You haven't dated someone aged Women have a sex drive.
There's little old ladies rubbing their thighs at the thought of some sexy grandfathers out there. You just need to do the right things to maintain it. Make time and do the things that made her fall for you in the first place. I would rather date for her cooking than just beauty.
Relationships aren't built on just looks. Looks are what drives the initial bit. Anyone can get someone based on looking good. Keeping them requires being more than good looking. Any woman fancying me is an ego boost. Hell any MAN fancying me is an ego boost. A lot of people have said some rather hurtful things. Oh we are old and over the hill. Let me put this in perspective. I worked insanely hard in my 20s.
The idea that I am dating a 23 year old who is impressed by my money is daft since I don't buy her anything. I know she can't match what I earn. She can't match it period. Hell a lot of people are talking here about how she will end up my carer. I am prepared to do the same.
A lot of people are just jealous IMHO. Guys who think I am dating a younger woman because she's young. Girls who think she's dating me because I am rich.
Whenever I see an older guy going for a younger girl, I always wonder if he could get a girl his age. If the answer is no or probably not, then that's a no for me too. I wouldnt generalize, but ive seen it many times too.