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You can also try setting up a formal intervention if there are other friends, family, or coworkers who see her going downhill like this. And don't presume that the people at her job don't know. They very well might be seeing things too. But if all else fails, you have to leave the relationship. That's painful, but it's the only way for you to keep your sanity even if she can't keep hers.
Originally Posted by JrzDefector. Since you're not married, I would advise you to break it off with her asap.
Her drinking will most likely always be a problem in your relationship. Just because you love her doesn't mean you should saddle yourself with an alcoholic for the rest of your life.
Love is not the only thing to consider when contemplating marriage. You also have to see whether you have compatible lifestyles.
In this case, you do not. Alcoholism is a lifelong problem.
Be wise and spare yourself a lifetime of heartache. It's too bad you didn't notice this early on and decide to not jump right into a perhaps intimate relationship with her so soon as you might have. But what's done is done. I can not tell you what to do nor fix your problem. I can only weigh in on a few things. Your girlfriend may or may not be a real alcoholic. Given a sufficiently strong reason, she may be able to stop or moderate. You may have to split up or at least move out for a while to find this out. In other words, give her a sufficiently strong reason to stop or moderate. If she's a real alky, she cannot not drink Call our toll-free number at any time to learn more about our progressive plans of treatment.
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What a functioning alcoholic high functioning alcoholic is How to deal with an alcoholic how to live with an alcoholic How to cope with an alcoholic husband or wife How to help an alcoholic. High-functioning alcoholics will rarely admit that they have a problem. But if someone in your life has three or more alcoholic beverages per day two or more for women , he or she is consuming more than the recommended amount.
Do not be become co-dependant. Given a sufficiently strong reason, she may be able to stop or moderate. I was a s retro stewardess. They may suffer from anxiety about their competency or their material security. His apartment is Katrina.
The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention defines moderate drinking as one drink per day for women, and up to two drinks per day for men. Binge drinking is defined as having four or more beverages in one drinking episode for women, and five or more beverages for men a typical drinking episode is around two hours. They restrict their drinking to specific times, situations, or beverages.
They ask friends or family to cover up for them. In reality, high-functioning alcoholism is usually made possible through the enabling behavior of loved ones. They isolate themselves in their private time. High-functioning alcoholics may act sociable and outgoing at the office or at company parties. They break personal commitments because of their drinking.
A functional alcoholic may receive awards at work for meeting high-performance standards, while forgetting an important anniversary or missing a family celebration because he or she was drunk or hungover. They secretly struggle with mental illness.
Many high-functioning alcoholics use their substance abuse to mask psychological disorders like depression, social phobia, or an eating disorder. They may suffer from anxiety about their competency or their material security. They might even talk about suicide or attempt to harm themselves. According to the National Institutes of Health , approximately 25 percent of functional alcoholics struggle with depression. Typical codependent behaviors include: Paying legal fees, traffic tickets, or fines that the alcoholic incurred Hiding the consequences of heavy drinking: Cleaning up messes or washing soiled clothes before the alcoholic is sober enough to see them Trying to manipulate the alcoholic into changing: If the consequences of high-functioning alcoholism have become overwhelming, and your loved one refuses to seek help for alcohol abuse, it could be time to plan an intervention.
The goals of an intervention include: Alcohol treatment with Dr. I got a nice bottle of wine, we never make dinner at home anymore! You did that thing today! A lot of people drink because drinking is fun and it brings out a more sparkling version of your personality at times, guys. That can be part of the addiction.
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