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Even after we have had sex hundreds of times. I still do it. At first he couldn't believe it. But then he saw that I don't know left and right, really, and my math skills end, largely, at third grade, and I am an idiot savant when it comes to memorizing statistics about Gen Y tendencies at work. So now he's learned to believe anything. And he has learned that the only way to get me uncurled is to talk to me. He says what he's doing with his hands, what he is feeling, what we will do, what I have done, he tries to stick to facts.
And he narrates his movements as he goes. And he does not expect me to move or speak, until I've heard enough verbal cues to get back in the game.
Posted by Lesley on November 20, at And on and on. However I have no hard feelings, they never had a chance to read something like this. If someone attractive walks by me and smiles, I will look straight ahead. It wont get easier unless he seeks help. Posted by april boughton on March 3, at
Sometimes, when the farmer was dumping me, and people were saying, how can you stick with him? Posted by jim on November 18, at They test them and make them show their clean bill of health before intercourse. Posted by Ken on March 13, at 7: I think you miss the point.
Posted by Scott on October 16, at Posted by Lisa on November 18, at Posted by Erika on November 18, at Posted by april boughton on March 3, at And then those women might end up responding in different ways. Some might have a lot of anxiety about sex, or become frigid, or decide only to have sex with other women, while some can maybe only have an orgasm while fantasizing about incest. The important lesson to take away is that the fuzzy-focus Penthouse fantasy of a woman enjoying herself is just that: And a male fantasy. Real life sex is much more complicated.
Posted by Shannon on November 18, at Posted by Yeah, right on November 25, at 8: Posted by Dani on November 30, at As a person who indeed was molested as a child and is still in therapy because of it Shut up!
I decided that one thing I could do with my anger was speak publicly about what happened to me. I did and I do.
Have done so for years. He is probably surrounded and will never know it because women will not make themselves vulnerable to someone as vicious as he is. Posted by Evy on January 27, at 3: I was molested, I have aspergers, my mind repressed the memories in order to protect itself. My aunt was molested. My old best friend. It makes me very sad, and I really wish you were right but unfortunately that statistic might not be as much bs as you think. I am happy for you, though. I am happy that you remain so ignorant to this topic, and I hope for your sake you remain that way.
I wish I could sit along with you and laugh at crazy feminist statistics. Posted by jackie on December 24, at 4: Most likely you were scammed. Posted by Ganondox on February 2, at 7: Posted by C on May 9, at 1: R u phucken seriously attempting to say some off the wall matter fact lame-o shyt like um excuse me memories dont wk like that and b for real?
Well as a aspie and molestation survivor who arrived at the knowledge of the true events some 20 yrs later while attending the mans funeral…….. Even when I was asked so many years ago.
Posted by Christina Trepagnier on June 1, at 4: Posted by William on March 16, at 2: You never, ever fail to amuse, inspire and delight me with your breathtaking honesty. Posted by Alison May on November 18, at Although alot of what you said resonated with myself as well.
At some point both my girls and myself have had conversations about birth control. I take them personally to get a shot. Posted by Mylinda on November 18, at Posted by Jeffrey on November 18, at 1: Posted by Nancy on November 18, at Posted by jypsy on November 18, at Is this a controversial topic? But I changed the sentence, anyway.
Posted by Penelope Trunk on November 18, at 7: Why is that ironic? Posted by Camels With Hammers on November 28, at I think being politically correct is silly, what is the point of beading around the bush like that when just saying it is so much more direct and uncomplicated? Omg, I love ur soul chic. Politicaly correct labelingof aspergers, funny shyt ijs touche. But I will anyway. Stay away from mercury, gluten, dairy.
Posted by Susan on February 21, at 1: Posted by Savannah on August 25, at So, yes it is Autism but a very mild form of it. Posted by Colleen on September 14, at And why are you saying that autism and aspergers are not the same? They are the exact same, just on far different ends of the spectrum! I have aspergers, and I have grown up around those with autism my dad used to work in the homes for older people with disabilities and I know that they are just like me but they are trapped.
Having Aspergers can already make you feel slightly trapped inside yourself, but Autism takes that to a whole new level. Those with autism are often times completely functional people — inside their head. Do not speak of things which you know nothing about. It makes you look foolish. Posted by Taryn on November 18, at Your brave piece is a wonderful contribution to the sorely-lacking sexuality aspect of our world.
Posted by Michael John Carley on November 18, at 1: Granted I have never had sex but I have done sexual things with a few guys. I have not had difficulties with the sexual area with guys. My issues with guys would be more of a social nature not sexual. Anyhow, maybe I am not as severe an Aspie as Penelope.
Posted by Colleen on September 15, at I realize that video was a parody. Was it supposed to be funny? In fact, I found it very insulting. By the way, I do not have Aspergers, but my year-old son does. Posted by PamN on November 18, at 1: Thank you again for a great post. I attending a workshop for parents and kids with intellectual disabilities and we were comparing notes about sexuality and behaviours esp with the boys i.
It is a tough one for sure and it is great to have your open and honest view.
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Thanks again once more for your insights and sharing. Posted by Izzy on November 18, at 1: But some things still just stand alone. Posted by Dani on November 18, at 2: Good grief Dani, autism is not caused by abuse. Why would you say something like this? Were one genetically predisposed to be alcoholic, one could abstain from alcohol however difficult and have a typical life free from the ravages of the disorder.
The only way one who inherits it could be neurologically typical is if they ceased to exist once autism became evident. There is no choice involved to which one could exercise their control to not be neurologically atypical. Posted by Kathleen on November 18, at 4: An inability to read social skills, well, there are little kids who begin school and are abused due to neglect.
They have these problems! Seems possible to me! What we know about AS and alcoholism is evolving. Not all alcoholism is genetic. There goes your theory! Posted by Lisa on November 19, at 5: Those other symptoms are common to all addictions, and they come from abuse. I used to work as a drug and alcohol counselor for teens, and elsewhere in the field before that, and the organization I worked for had regular in-service trainings in which, no matter which professional was giving it, the link between abuse and addiction was very clear and accepted.
There are therapies that can relieve an increasing number of the symptoms over time if you continue using them, is all, mainly in the form of twelve-step programs.