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On our one year anniversary we were lying in bed and he finally told me he loved me and it released us both. I basically screamed back that I loved him too and then we held each other and giggled like idiots because we were finally free.
The next day I was euphoric, smiling like a goon, barely able to contain my joy. Now, did he end up breaking my heart? Of course he did. Did I end up breaking his heart? Are two broken hearts the most typical result of most relationships?
Here is something that you already know: You say that you have to muster courage to have a conversation about a relationship, but I want you to really examine that thought. Why does it take courage?
What, exactly, is the risk? Does the sky fall? Does the world burn? Does your rent go up? Look at this from the long view: What an individual man thinks of you has fuck all to do with your worth as a human. The idea of being rejected is so scary, but the real life experience of being rejected is less so. The truth is when a man falls in love, he falls hard.
It is obvious to you and him and your cat and everyone who walks by him on the street. Please know that their actions had absolutely nothing to do with you—your value, your beauty, your intelligence, your worth.
You know the guys who cheat on you? The type of guy who cheats on you? Stop dating that guy. The pattern here is you: Now, erase the contact that lists his actual name. Fuckboys have a sense for these things. Relationships are agreements entered into by two people who find that they simply must be together. Don ' t let yourself be distraught over half the picture. You may also want to take a social media break yourself if the news is negatively influencing what you post.
Your mind is probably swimming with all kinds of tough emotions right now, and the last thing you should do is bottle them up. When things seem the hardest is when it ' s most important to talk about them with someone you trust. Whether it ' s a close friend, a family member or someone in your online community, talking about things helps. And if you ' re not ready to chat about it, and least try writing all of your thoughts and feelings down.
Get it all out and you ' ll feel a lot better about the situation.
You can be on the rebound even if you were never actually in a relationship with someone. With your crush out of the picture, you might want to immediately date someone else in order to stop feeling lonely or to make your crush jealous.
If you ' re actually interested in this new person, it ' s a bad idea because you ' re probably not entirely over your old crush. If you ' re not that into them, you ' re only dating for the sake of moving on. Neither is healthy, so give it some time, first. Spend time with people you care about, eat healthy food and drink plenty of water, and get out and move around.
As hard as it sounds, it may also be a good idea to spend time away from your phone. And don ' t forget to pamper yourself. Take a bath and do your nails. Do whatever you need to make yourself feel powerful and confident, and get ready to put some positive energy back out into the world.