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A close relation of mine once dated my gynaecologist. I'd recommended him to her for his medical skills rather than his romantic qualifications, but it was love at first sight over the stirrups apparently she was also in her 50s. While I was delighted that she had found a decent guy to date, my appointments with him became excruciating ordeals from then on; watching them snog over dinner wasn't too great either.
That said, it would never have occurred to me to drive a wedge between the happy couple, and I think your daughter and son-in-law's response, while understandable, is also over the top. You all need to turn down the emotional heat.
You and your daughter both see something in this family that is you and your boyfriend are moving forward, it doesn't mean that they are. My boyfriend and I are both 17, my mom is 42, my boyfriend's dad is like .. How's the parents dealing now that they know you two are dating?.
This whole "We're in our 50s and may never have the chance of happiness again" declaration is overwrought. You've half your life still to live. I'm sure it would be lovely to settle down to a second stab at happily married bliss, but it's equally possible that this is just a short-lived but hopefully enjoyable romantic interlude.
For both couples' sakes I'd recommended that you tone down the rhetoric and simply enjoy the moment. Continuing that level of "This is our last chance" pressure on each other would make me more worried about your relationship staying the course than your daughter and her boyfriend getting over the news. If you have a dilemma, send a brief email to mariella. Follow Mariella on Twitter mariellaf1. Topics Family Dear Mariella.
Then one night in June , the three were watching TV. Feeling rejected, Shaun went to bed. After kissing on the sofa, she suggested they go upstairs — even though her boyfriend was in the next room. As he said goodbye to his girlfriend and dad, he had no idea what would happen.
When she said yes, I was over the moon. But it was too late. Someone had already told him.
Her parents were shocked, too, when they found out Vicky was engaged to a man their own age. They initially refused to sign the permission forms for their under daughter to get married. Some sent abusive messages and no one understood that we were in love. Some of my friends just made fun of the age gap, but once they met Andy they saw how lovely he was.
She brought out the young, fun side of me. After a week, Shaun relented and spoke to him. Vicky was the first of her friends to marry at just 16 and a few years later she wanted to be a mum. The couple accept it may never happen. To me, it shows that this man raised a good son. You and your daughter both see something in this family that is appealing.
A reader, anonymous , writes 27 March Gular rustie lown, a wonderful relationship so when she. Charity worker Vicky, now 24, first met Shaun through friends in April Forbidding it would probably go in one ear and out the other. Order by newest oldest recommendations.
This is wise, regardless of your current situation. Now that you want to move it to the next level, by all means be straight with the kids. You kept it from them for good reason and you can tell them so. They are very young. Chances are they are going to change as they grow. Indeed, I hope they will go through a number of relationships before they settle on their forever person.
Conversations about the advisability of waiting for sex are definitely in order. Forbidding it would probably go in one ear and out the other.
But, please, 14 and 15 is really too young to get sexually involved. I suggest each parent have a frank conversation with your own child to talk clearly about the implications of being sexual at this point in their relationship.