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Perhaps he no shows or asks you out on short notice leaving you wondering and waiting for the next call. As you heal yourself and your inner sense of deservability, you will magnetize a higher quality man who can match your deeper needs, wants and desires. They will make the effort. Actions speak louder than words Does he do what he says he says he will do? He might be in a situation where he is a co-parent and still dealing with his ex.
She drove a cool car, her outfits looked good, and so on. Seriously, what could be more attractive than a total babe with the power to construct a skyscraper? She said we should meet up, and then at the last minute, she would get a call from work, or she felt tired, or whatever. These calls from work were possibly fictitious. But I was not deterred.
Weeks of carefully crafted messages later, she finally met up with me one night for a beer. Probably because she felt bad for me, or she needed some attention. And the tragic thing is that, when I finally met her, Betty turned out to be… OK.
She was certainly pretty, but a little less pretty than her profile pictures made her out to be. Conversation was polite and unremarkable. It was all idle chit-chat, in other words. This kind of miscommunication is the source of a lot of frustration for both parties.
Some people will complain about flakes, when the real problem is vagueness on their part. Before you encounter any more of these situations, figure out what you will and will not stand for.
I generally have a 3 out of 5 rule. If they flake more times than they keep plans, that to me is not acceptable. What if you can tell their excuse is bullshit?
Everyone loves to complain about flakes in dating. You'll probably come across someone who doesn't return texts or goes MIA just as you were. We arranged this through the dating app the night before around midnight, I suppose I get tired of other people's propensity to bail (or flake or.
I am usually a little more lenient on this if it is not a direct lie. But some people may feel like that adds insult to injury.
Take the time to go through all of these hypothetical flaking scenarios and decide what is right for you. We talked about exceptions in the last section; consider if you are willing to make exceptions for any of the people that fall into these categories. Talk to your no-bullshit friend about it and listen to their perspective.
Copy and paste these tested words to get a response and get her addicted to you - every time! Enter your name and email below to get a FREE copy of this report I would have made other plans — either with someone else or staring at my own wall instead of stewing in aggravation.
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