Contents:
Personally, I had a situation with an ex who lived in a different city about 55 miles from me. We also exchanged text messages often as well as emails.
I felt I did not have any time for myself to pursue other things that I enjoy doing like working out, reading, going for a walk, researching and planning for the future etc. I found myself glued to the phone with this ex during every free time I had. I tried talking to her to help her understand I was not happy with the frequency of her calls, it almost always turned into an argument.
I did not mind the texts or emails, it was the calls and their frequency that started to irritate me. I called her every other day but I texted her everyday but she expected me to call her as frequently as she called me. Eventually, I had enough of her unreasonable behaviour and I broke up with her. Most people do it every day, depending on what they do, their availability etc.
But if everyday is too much, then you can change the frequency to what you feel is comfortable. The man who left the system is not the same as the man who entered.
Ask New Question Sign In. When dating and living separately, on average, how often should the couple talk or text? The must-play city building game this year. Advance through historical ages and into the future in this award-winning game. Play Now at forgeofempires. You dismissed this ad.
The feedback you provide will help us show you more relevant content in the future. It got tiring for me very quickly and it created resentment towards her. So this issue can make or break a relationship, tread carefully. Learn how I stopped procrastinating using scientific methods. Not to get off topic but it's all dating so anyway. I'm not leting it stop me move on as I have 2 more dates set up.
I still feel bad though because I don't "crush" too often, meaning I hardly ever meet a woman and start liking her to where I cant stop thinking about her. After our 3rd date I texted her the next day and told her I was thinking about her and then told her I may not get to go out for a couple of weeks due to school. Then I texted her 2 days later and made small talk and called her a few days later with no texts in between. She took the call and we talked and she said she was going out of town. I texted her a couple days later and she replied, then the next day and she never responded.
I called her the next day and two days later she didn't respond and I may have jumped the gun texted her saying I didn't expect an immediate response but was wondering what's up and told her to be honest I won't be mad and wouldn't call anymore. She said she wasn't ignoring me and we agreed we'd like to see eachother again and she flaked till I gave up and then the last one happened where I unintentionally came accross as uninterested and she changed her mind.
Just do what you do, there's no sense in using tactics when it will come out in the end. I've had women start rapid firing me texts like a 13 year old girl within minutes of exchanging numbers. While I found it annoying, I realized this is just how they are and I could deal with it or not.
I say call her, text her, e-mail her whatever whenever you want to. Don't worry too much about playing the game and trying not to mess up or spoil things. When you overthink it is when you screw it up. I've dated guys that ranged from constant contact to a text once or twice weekly. Honestly, if I liked the guy, the frequency of contact didn't matter one bit. It was the quality of contact that mattered. If I could tell he was trying to force a conversation or holding back as to not come across too needy, it was a turn off. Just contact her when you feel the need and if she's into you, she will appreciate it.
I agree with a lot of what Kiss said - a lighthearted text once or twice a day is fine. If you are really into someone, then of course you want to hear from them all the time.
If she completely stops answering or doesn't agree to dates anymore, then you have your answer as to whether or not she is interested. I am a guy and from my experiences where the woman will expressed herself to me. She will tell you how much contact she wants, that is if she likes you. She will also tell you by words or actions what she is comfortable with.
She might like the daily phone calls or the good mornings texts.
Play Now at forgeofempires. You dismissed this ad. The feedback you provide will help us show you more relevant content in the future. I get it, texting has changed the whole game.
Now when all of us are always stuck to our phones, you tend to lose the other person if you're not in touch at least once daily. The days of sending flowers and catching up once weekly are over.
No offence and here's where it gets tricky, individual exposure varies. There'll be girls who are always online and very chatty and then there are those who check the texts once a day. You can't possibly know who's who on the first date so here's what I follow- I send her a text and see how long the conversation goes.
I get a feel of how chatty she is. Basically, if she is not busy and into me, she'd keep responding. It'll be like a date going on even after the actual date and the conversation never stops. Now, if she takes time to reply to my texts or replies in "hmm", "k" and other monosyllabic words, I get the message and make my texts really to-the-point and short. What was the name of that book you were reading?
I space these texts out once every three days to maybe a week. If she's into me, slowly the talks begin and I get to know her.