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When we talk about love, dating, and romance, body language plays a big role. The question is how do we use body language to be attractive and how does body language play a role in attraction? To understand modern day nonverbal signals of attraction it is helpful to look at the history of where our body language comes from.
Our caveman ancestors used the same body language we use today.
Here are the messages we are trying to send to potential mates with our body language, and what is seen as attractive:. Here are the body language cues that people find most attractive:. Once our mind decides we like someone as a potential mate our body automatically begins to change physically to attract the person. Our cheeks flush to make us look like we are aroused, our lips swell to look more fertile, and even our pheromones pump to attract the other person. We can do a few things to attract a mate from a body language perspective.
So, what are the actual signs of attraction? How do they come out in the body? Here are some body language cues for attraction:. When we are attracted to someone, blood will flow to our face, causing our cheeks to get red. This happens to mimic the orgasm effect where we get flushed. It is an evolutionary way the body tries to attract the opposite sex.
This is why women wear blush. This also happens with lips and eyes.
The redder the lips and the whiter the eyes, the more fertile and attractive someone is. Purse behavior is a form of nonverbal communication. It is how someone interacts with their environment based on their emotions. The purse is an interesting indicator of nonverbal behavior.
For example, if a woman is feeling uncomfortable or not attracted to someone, she either will clutch her bag tightly or place it in front of or covering her body. Bennett said when you're spending time with a date, observe his posture. For example, "is he consistently leaning towards you when you talk? If he does, it's an indication he's interested in you and what you have to say," he said.
Just think about how you behave when you're focused on something interesting. If you're into it, you're likely sitting in attention. They say the eyes are the windows to the soul, and maybe they're right. Another way you can tell through someone's eyes is if their pupils are dilated.
This might seem like an obvious one, but physical contact is one way to tell if he's interested. To show interest, Bennett said that men are likely throw out subtle, non-sexual touching if they're into you. He also said that if a man totally keeps his hands to himself, he probably doesn't find you attractive.
Do consider, however, that if someone refrains from physical contact, they could also just be respecting your space, which is not a bad thing, and doesn't necessarily mean that they aren't interested in you at all. Have you ever felt the urge to physically be nearer to someone you're interested in romantically? That desire to get closer to someone you're interested in is true for men as well.
A good way to test this is to move in just a little bit closer, perhaps by leaning in to sit closer to him during dinner. The keys areas to pay attention to are the eyes and lips. One of the simplest ways of flirting is a smile. A smile is a way to catch your eye, and if a woman is smiling at you, she is probably trying to get your attention. But it does not end there. As the adage goes, eyes are the window to the soul.
That eye movement is the basis of the notorious coy glance, eyes meeting, speaking and sparks flying. Body posture speaks its own language of love - you just need to hone in on the signs and know how to translate it! Pay close attention to her chest and hands.
Women will often draw attention to their neck, shoulders, and wrists in order to attract attention. Unconscious acts like shrugging the shoulders, twirling her hair, flashing the inside of the wrists and massaging her own neck are all subtle invitations for you to get closer to her. Women will engage in these alluring motions to subconsciously encourage a possible partner.
Consider these signs a green light and go for it! It is often a misconception that women are peacocks, preening and parading for their own pride. The purpose of this kind of display is rather an instinctual evolutionary response to attract a suitable mate. Many men mistake this interest for vanity.
If your date seems to be looking in the mirror frequently, puts on lipstick after returning from the bathroom, fixes and plays with her hair, or smoothes out her dress, she is more likely trying to impress you rather than being self-obsessed. A man will then do something very distinctive with his lips if he likes you. Finally, a man will display almost an animalistic expression by flaring his nostrils as you capture his eye!
He is also communicating with his eyes. There are unconscious acts that men engage in when they are first attracted to you. Surprisingly, like women, men also play with their hair. He will either run his hands through it or smooth it depending on the style he is sporting to make him look more attractive. Traditionally women are thought to be the sex who prance and preen to impress.