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Like, hours longer at a lower heat. Granted, it shouldn't take dating a cook to know this. It just shouldn't be a cop-out to say you enjoy two foods equally and respect each food individually for what they are. Not many industries are considered "easy," but the culinary industry can be especially grueling.
You're either getting to work early or leaving work late. You're going to get cut or burned most days. But like every other career industry, it has its perks. Food is an art, so you're basically making edible art for people to enjoy. You're going to make some good friends in the kitchen, and if you climb the ranks, you can totally revamp a menu with your creative genius.
Unless you have your ratios memorized , I would stick to recipes for baking. But when you're cooking, there's way more wiggle room for putting in whatever you want and making something that doesn't fit a definitive category of food. If it sounds good, put it together and make it with confidence. Who cares if you've never seen the combination before? After an hour I gave up sat on the floor and wondered what it was going to be like in five years time.
After reading this article and everyones comments its made me feel stronger knowing that there are others out there going through the same things I am. Sorry it was spent cleaning a chef coat though. I wish I stumbled across your site a lot sooner! I am feeling so empty, lonely and sad in the past few weeks. We had plans to do something one evening and he had to cancel last minute due to scheduling conflict, etc.
I felt like I had no life. I hated the fact that I was at the mercy of his schedule. I think I made a huge mistake. We do love each other. The last minute changes in their schedules are so hard to get used to. It never hurts to pick up the phone and tell him what you just wrote. Thank you so much. I feel bad for ending it and shutting him out because I thought it was the best way to move forward.
I do regret my actions. Thank you again for the advice. And your story also gives me hope that I, too, can make it work if I really tried.
If you just googled, "Dating a chef" and arrived here, welcome! But with that being said, I know that finding a new blog can sometimes be overwhelming. Oct 13, If you'd told me in high school that the acne-ridden cooking apprentices with whom I took the bus every day would become the alpha males of.
My husband and I have been together for six years, and his crazy schedule actually inspired me to start my own business so I can have more flexibility to be with him. Sometimes he goes in at 3: I know when children enter our lives it will grow increasingly more difficult. As it is, our friends are never really sure if he will be able to attend their functions or not and are very forgiving. He will still cook at home and try different things based on the latest trends in food sometimes that means we have five different types of pickled quail eggs in the fridge, but there are always people willing to take them off our hands!
I told him once the passion is gone he will need to switch to consulting for better hours, but for now he is happy and I am happy I have found a way to adjust to his hours with my business.
Heather — so glad to hear you started your own business to have more flexible hours!! I too am dating a chef for about 8 months now and it is honestly so hard.
I myself already have trouble being alone, so to add a boyfriend, who I live with to always be gone and to never have anyone to hang out with, really bums me out. Oh Nicole you are not alone!
Glad you found me! And we do have a support group. Go here for more details — http: I was surprised but grateful to land on your website and read through your posts which make me feel more comfortable and that I am not alone or the only one with this problem. We have been together for 2 years and we are quite content with how things are going.
We both work full time jobs in similar industries which means we get along with each other very well. I would like advice from your experiences on how to not get super stressed with being on my own during busy periods? How do you get him to communicate more?
How can I make him understand what I am going through. As far as not getting super stressed and struggling with the communication, I think all you can do is talk about it with him. That seems to work well for us.
I live in London and have only been dating my chef for a couple of months but already realise this is going to be harder than I thought. We met online and really hit it off, talking daily over messenger and being excited to meet each other. We live about 40mins away and to begin with were seeing each other quite often, and it was great.
I spend more time with his TV than him. I really like him and want to keep seeing him but I also would like him to keep making an effort like he was when we first met. Am I being unreasonable?
Should I accept this and be glad when I do get to see him? Genuine questions that Id really welcome advice about. Will keep reading your blog, so glad I found it! Have you tried talking to him about it? Has he been extra tired lately? I am a 19 year old girlfriend of 3 years to an apprentice chef who works around hours per week in Adelaide.
We live together, and I study nursing. I work mornings, he works nights.. He is stuffed when he gets home, and Im asleep. This blog is fantastic! These posts have really touched me, and helped me understand. Oh I just stumbled across your blog and subsequently your facebook page and support group!
That days off are never guaranteed and requests for days off mostly go un noticed. Thank you for having this blog! Hope things slow down a bit after the Christmas season! He stopped school a little while now and recently started back. I used to spend soooo much time with him and he with me, but now its school, work, home. I work from 8am How could I make this work?? Those opposite hours are really hard. It sounds like you have to squeeze in time anywhere you can meet for a quick breakfast or early dinner, etc.
I guess having strong bonds with your extended family, aunts, uncles, cousins helps quite a lot. But to be honest, I really like our lifestyle and since I like to make things my way it works perfectly when it comes to house chores, decor, food, etc.
I wanted to point out that there are people like me who live with a chef and enjoys the lifestyle! We just switch our holidays to a week after or before the high season. Pepper, thanks so much for mentioning that. We moved away from family about 7 years ago and it made the holidays and other special occasions harder, so I agree with what you said about how having strong bonds with your extended family really helps!! I miss them so much! In this situation I am the Chef. I do have 2 months off a year as I work two seasonal jobs. I was dating a marvelous woman a couple of years ago, whom I had known for some time.
We started dating in the spring and through the summer. During that time my hours, even though I generally work more of them in a week, are a bit more flexible. Once I started working in earnest during the winter season ski resort it tore us apart.
When I need someone to talk to, when i need someone to comfort, he is never available. And remember while I write about being married to a chef, I share many of the same emotions that you have while dating one. Cause then it is something you both are passionate about. Elle on June 26, at 3: I miss them so much! I do love him and so I sometimes feel guilty or selfish when I complain about his time constraints.
It gives me hope that eventually it might be possible for someone to put up with my career. Love how you describe your hours. Glad you clicked on the link and thanks for sharing your thoughts. It is hard to combine two such opposite schedules!! My partner is a chef and we have been living together for just over 2 years. He opened his own restaurant late last year and to say things have been stressful is an understatement. I love him to bits and he loves me. We are totally committed to each other and are each others rock, but there are many times when I question myself — is this the life I want to lead?