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She likes the guy but does not want to date him. If a girl is dating someone it does not make her sterile to influences and liking!:) Now, she might say, "This is a really bad time for me," or something like, "I just need some space," or my. Does it matter? If she has a boyfriend/seeing someone than she's either committed to that person and if she isn't committed but still with them than obviously.
The harder you try to get her, the more enmeshed you become in her toxic relationship, which saps your energy and makes it harder for you to be a strong, healthy person. In the latter, you need to seriously consider your reasons for chasing her — and determine whether you both want to pursue this relationship. If you feel that you must be with this person, and — this is essential — the feeling is clearly mutual that is, she feels about you the way you feel about her, and you both want to be together , then you can and should go for it.
But ethically speaking, two self-aware adults choosing to be with each other despite any previous attachments is a reasonable ground upon which to build a relationship. But there also strong reasons not to pursue an attached woman. If a girl is in a relationship that makes her happy, why would you want to break it up?
Again, we return to the question of motivation.
In this case, let her bring up a date. Oblivious would have been a better word to use. Why do you want a girl with a boyfriend? If you have a compelling answer to that question, then there might be a good reason to pursue her. Are you an introvert or an extrovert? Relationships are a normal subject of conversation, so she shouldn't be too suspicious if you keep it light and friendly.
There are excellent reasons to be friends with women, and — as we often say on the podcast — female friends are essential to a well-rounded social life. So consider the practical and ethical considerations here.
We can only share the right questions to ask so you can make sound decisions for the long term. Your abundance mentality — the mindset that there are tons of women out there who you could start a relationship with — is going to help you maintain the perspective and attitude you need to get a girl with a boyfriend to fall in love with you. But your abundance mentality is part of a bigger picture. You need to put yourself first when wooing anyone, especially a girl who already has a boyfriend. In practice, that means having time for her only when you actually have time for her.
The best and most attractive thing you can offer her right now is your strength and independence from her situation. Running every time she says she needs you to erode that strength and independence. But you can always do a little more to deepen the connection you already have and push it toward romantic love.
That, more than anything, will give her a compelling reason to be with you. One powerful way to be there for her while simultaneously creating attraction is to make her laugh.
You just have to show her a good time. At the same time, she might not be getting a lot of interest in her at home. One hallmark of bad relationships is that one or both parties start feeling unappreciated. It means she's absolutely not interested.
It means she's not immediately avalable, but It means she's not attracted to you, personally.. It means she wants to compare you with other guys. It's a test to see if you're easily discouraged. Select age and gender to cast your vote: Do you crave love? Why do girls like to be percieved as princesses? Why do girls play hard to get? Are you an introvert or an extrovert? What Girls Said 5. Isn't it just a ploy sometimes, to see how the guy will react? You must have asked anonymously because I can't find it.
What Guys Said 2. Well, the most intuitive answer seems like the correct one: Can you measure up with Harry Haircut, or Buff Bob? If you participate in the act of trying to date other human beings, that's perforce the case. Trying to make herself sound like the heroine of a romantic comedy, or a complicated reality show.
Trying to make herself sound like some sort of buried treasure, sought after by all sorts of courageous explorers. She should have something more to talk about than how much people want to be with her. Try to imagine a guy doing this — constantly telling a girl he's seeing about other girls he's seeing — and you see how desperate it feels.
A great partner is someone who wants to connect with you on an individual basis. People who care about you a little bit, but not a lot, are fun sometimes.
For a little while. And frankly, even if she's oversharing, it's better that she's being honest with you and above board, rather than acting like you're the one when you're just Joe Average to her.
Her name was Annabel, and she was great. At least, she was at first. A cute English major with endless energy.