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Do you have any ideas? What then should you do? I would encourage you to sit down together and make a list of the things you have been doing that have made your friendship so strong. Commit to keep doing them, and your relationship will automatically grow. But be extremely careful about becoming very affectionate and sexual with each other. I have seen so many potentially great relationships ruined by the misuse of sex.
As someone once said, if you settle for cheap sex, you will never discover priceless love. So be open and honest with your feelings, but be prepared for them not to be reciprocated. But with him knowing how you feel, you very well might open the door for him to start seeing you in a different, more romantic light. Not telling him is killing me and I hate it because the longer I make it go on the more he will be hurt.
I really appreciate that you care about your best friend and as well as his feelings. I would suggest that you need to discuss with him as early as possible about your feelings without hurting him. The longer time you take things will go worse. I am pretty sure if you discuss with him lovingly he will definitely understand your feelings and thoughts about this relationship. Me and my guy friend are like really close and me being a trans gay dude and him not being gay both say we love eachother but like…. There are pros and cons to all of these scenarios.
Normally, there are only a two people you ever have to consider when you start dating someone new: Who cares about what other people think? This is usually solved by being up front with both your ex and their friend and asking. But friendships are complicated. First, consider why you want to date this girl. There are tons of girls out there in the world, and the majority didn't date any of your friends. Is she so close and special to you that she's better than any other girl out there?
How close are you and your friend? Do you spend a ton of time together? Imagine a scenerio where you are with this girl, just hanging out with your friend and his girl like you normally would. Do you see the guy having issues with being around this girl? How about his girl? Is she completely cool hanging out with one of his exes, laughing and joking, sharing stories from back in the day and those two were dating? How does this girl feel about your friend?
Are they still close? Did the relationship end on bad terms? It's just less of a hassle to not date a friend's ex, but to each his own. Eight years ago, my best friend at the time started seeing a girl I had dated and believed I loved. At the time, I felt upset; angry; betrayed. We drifted apart as they drifted together. Eight years later, they are getting married and I could not be happier for the two of them. While we grew apart, they found one another; and when love is genuine, there is nothing greater.
Seeing them fall in love made me let go of my bitterness and realize that if you truly love someone, give them the chance to be happy. You might lose a best friend, but gain a soulmate along the way. He probably had a crush on you the whole time. But if you like him, go ahead and see where it leads. You finding the right guy to spend your life with matters. And after five years???? The relationship ended and you were back on the market, and free to date whoever you want.
This is usually solved by being up front with both your ex and their friend and asking. Otherwise, I've seen many an instance where the best friend turned out to be the better match. Is he worthy of a lot of consideration? It was completely innocent, he and I thought nothing of it… at least until we were both single. At the risk of stating the obvious, people who are friends usually have a ton of things in common, including personality traits. Did the relationship end on bad terms? Do you have any ideas?
If the guy is still friends with your ex, then he may lose that friendship. But that is entirely up to him if he wants to pursue you, and he obviously is.
May 7, I'm dating my best friend now and the only thing that changed is that we have sex now and I worry a lot more. On one hand it feels natural, right. "There's no greater compliment to my character than a friend allowing me to date their sister.". The first whisper reads, "Sibling rule: If you wanna be ".
And again, not your problem to solve. On a related note, what you should remember about any past relationship, is what went well, what went wrong, and how you can use that information to become wiser and improve future relationships. You'd have to evaluate your friendship and see if that person seems like they would be cool with it. Also, it depends on how strong and how long their relationship was, check if they still have light feelings for that person etc.
There is a super duper unspoken rule against it, people tend to feel like people are their property so it's super duper weird to see your ex with your best friend.
So you'd have to weigh if this sexual or romantic pursuit is worth it. Most people don't even want to think or deal with this situation, let alone actually go through it. It can bring ancient feelings to the surface and feel like utter betrayal, but it all depends on the type of person your friend is and how they felt about that person. That said, does this best friend have any concerns about his friendship with his friend?
Your ex may have reservations not about you dating him, but him dating you while being his friend. In some places, where towns are so small, the ex's best friend might be your only option for the next guy to date. There isn't a set of rules for this kind of thing. People like to make rules up and try to enforce them to control people around them like guys making up 'bro-codes' to prevent their mates from moving on girls they fancy , but actually there's no good reason to not date a guy who is not genetically related to you , just because they are friends with someone you already dated.
BUT you do need to know that ex's are often super sensitive and freaked out if their previous GF dates their mate, so it's wise to know that you may be asking the new guy to choose between you and the best mate your ex. So be sure it's worth it, remember he may resent you for forcing him to make that choice. Also remember that, depending on their ages and personality types, you may end up being the centre of some pretty graphic discussions, if you've been intimate had sex with with both of these guys, who are best mates Maybe you should too.
Good luck to you. Especially after 5 years! Its good to be sensative and depends on the situation but unless they are immature it should be ok. Given i am still friends with almost all my exes and i am not the type to hold grudges, i have twice had close friends date an ex of mine. My exes are people that were at some point a big part of my life and i once cared for them deeply, so i still want them to be happy. As i said in my case there was no nasty break up we are in the same group of friends and we get along great as friends, just nothing more.
One of my longtime best friends is engaged to my ex and i am a bridesmaid. The guy code I grew up with so this is from the guys side: Time, enough time has to have past. How long did they date?
If my friend was dumped and took it hard I wouldn't go there. Getting permission from your friend is best but not necessary.
I hooked up with my best friends college girl friend 10 years out of college. He broke her heart yet he was still upset. He just said "please don't fall in love or get married, that would be too weird. Come to find out she started hanging round my friend because she liked me and she told him that.