Dating someone who dumped you before

Overlappers: When they start a new relationship just before your breakup

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See, this is why I hold ACs accountable for causing so much suffering. This guy begged you to give up your life and move to another country… all to stroke his massive ego. They prey on vulnerable people, just like any con artist. When we made first contact, I lived in the US for a year.

During this year we grew close again, we made Skype every day and he told me that he was only waiting for me to come back to Europe and that he wanted a relationship with me. He never waited for me- alone and divorced He was married all the time and his wife had no clue!

Thank you all for sharing your stories, time and advice!!! My Narc husband left me on my Birthday have secured a relationship before he left me. Left me on several other occasions for other women, only to come back crawling again.

He is a seriel overlapper and I feel sory for this woman because eventually she will find out what he is like. This has been the most abusive relationship I have ever had and after 6 months I am just begining to heal. My advise to anyone who has experience this is get-out and stay-out.

When I was very young 19, 20 I was an overlapper. Fast forwarding and possibly future faking.

While dating my last bf, I found out that he had still been seeing on the side his last gf whom he was supposedly broken up with for 4 months and once met me, he cut contact. I then saw him out with a couple of different girls and found out that he married the third one 9 weeks after he met her. All I can say is, that it all became clear. I dont want to be an overlapper, nor do I want to have anything to do with one. There will be an immediate exit next time I find out that I overlapped some other girl. This sooo describes my at work AC. He was in some sort of relationshit with a woman miles away while using me to close the attention gap during the week.

He also flirts with women at college-wide gatherings when current gf is not there. Nope, no conscience in play there. I understand you and recognise the same feelings by myself. I was too desperate to let him go, I thought maybe the other woman was a pushover, because I took too much time to make a decision concerning moving together within 3 weeks!

I got new expectations in him, because he soon regretted his decision. He started writing me ambiguous and flirty again and dumped the other woman after few month. Then he asked me to meet him, but I played it a little harder and he got angry and gave me a silent treatment for one month: Then he was back: And thanks to BG I can see him differently… which makes me slowly to feel better… But yes, the thought of having him a love- child with an other woman still hurts in my heart — although my head knows better!

But the connection between head and heart is difficult to make! I desire absolute neutrality towards him….

Overlappers: They start a new relationship before breaking up with you

Marissa why are you putting yourself through this? Have you read Natalies posts about being friends with these men? Not in any form. Go no contact and let him miss you whilst you forge a new life. Unless you are able to hear about his fantastic new girlfriend and his plans for a future with her and think it is all great then you have no business pretending to be his friend.

You are allowing yourself to be an option and it is demeaning. I did this myself, only for a couple of weeks, but it did not end well and I really regret it. Life is so much better being totally NC. I think I stole it from one of the others. Might have been Grace, CC or Rev.

I think it myself whenever I catch myself romanticising about the ex. You know who this guy is — has disrespected you and others — yet you continue to be his friend???? I recall doing an overlap once in my life… in high school. If one is habitually overlapping, one has much bigger issues than jumping from person to person. After reading this post, I realized that The Snake used me as an overlap. And I stupidly remained his friend, not knowing that this was going on. I would like to gather up all these AC, EUM Narcs, Cheaters and poor excuse for men and drive them out to an island somewhere off the coast of Australia and leave them there with a lettuce leaf and a pick axe.

The pain they cause is impossible to measure and I only hope as we evolve further and women become smarter we will see the extinction of these jerks. My recent ex-EUM is a serial overlapper.

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I have shed my last tear for his award winning performance over 2 years. What an oxygen thief! No no no Puh-lease dont dump them off the coast of Australia. There are too many there already!!!! He will only sweet talk some poor dolphin to ride on its fin till he gets back to land!!!! Make it a really cold place…like the Arctic where his balls freeze and his dick gets frostbite and he is no more Mr Happy Feet!!!! This post brings out comments of the most painful experiences…l do hope we seed a better way to next generation of women. My x left me after being together for 8 years and I was devastated.

My self esteem dropped to below zero and the pain of the rejection was unbearable. To look for answers I red pretty much every article about this subject and was lucky to find BR during this voyage. What I wonder about is this. When you say a relationship is not working, what do you mean by that? It may sound like a stupid question but really. I am convinced that when a person falls in love with someone else it is because they feel a void is being filled.

After a couple of traumatic losses in our families in the year prior to him abbandoning me we both felt tired, passive and had a hard time to pick ourselves up. I can immagine that getting attention from another woman gave him a boost of energy and made him feel alive. But does it really say anything about a relationship if someone then leaves after a 3 week crush?

One of the sites I visisted a lot in the beginning was runawayhusbands. I wanted to understand it and get some answers. I thought is was bad being left after 8 years but here were women being abbandoned after 20 years or even 38 years. The men they were with changed over night like a Dr. When I started reading BR I discovered that I missed several red flags over the years and this has helped me greately.

Does this answer my question if our relationship was not working? I think this subject keeps me so occupied because if the relationship was the problem I could have maybe fixed it but if it is him I could not have. I want to stop doubting myself and start to feel stronger to be able to trust, respect, care and love again.

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Any idiot can fall in love — that is, any idiot can get all the hormones lined up in the right order at the right time and FEEL attached to someone. Actually loving someone though, imo, involves making a conscious choice to BEHAVE as though you love them — to stick by them, care for them, help make their life better, avoid hurting them and to make the relationship work.

The hormones wear off. I think that a lot of people me included have fallen into the trap of thinking that love is a feeling that wafts around, floats down on the passive you and then sticks around making you feel good for the rest of your life. The people who have the loving marriages manage it, I think, because they ACT as though they love their partner, even when it would feel much nicer to go off with someone fresh and new.

Does that sound right? I just spent a few days with a friend who has been in a LDR for the last 5 years and is very happy and contented and they are planning to move in together at some unclear point maybe. She loves him and thinks he is great and she is lucky to have him.

While catching up, subject of my last EUM came up and the fact that there was very possibly an overlap with his ex when we first met and how I now think that that was the first flag where I should have flushed. She says I am oversensitive, after five years with the guy she is still holding on to her ex lovers number in case her boyfriend leaves her and she told her boyfriend that if he ever has a one night stand not to tell her, she would rather not know. I am truly baffled how anyone can have that attitude, and people do. Talk about difference in values.

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