Dating a girl who has a long distance boyfriend
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I'm planning to take her out to show her that she can have a good time here, with me. If she is as interested as it seemed, spending time together might very well be enough to make her question why she is dating someone miles away when she could be dating me. Yes, this might lead to disappointment, but if I don't do anything at all, there is no chance of anything happening, not even a friendship which would be better than nothing.
I have been in a similar situation recently, so I'm going to try and offer you a slightly different perspective. At the moment, you don't really know this girl: Either way, you have learned something about her dating style from what happened at the party which you might want to store away for later. If you do like her and want to see if the situation has any potential, I would meet up with her but I'd use that occasion to define your boundaries. Personally, I'd explain that you like her but you won't let it go any further while she's still attached.
Then go away and try and minimise contact. Don't add her on FB for now for all the best reasons: It is a delicate situation but can be handled with decency, in my opinion.
Mixed messages from a woman with a long distance relationship. What should I do?
Please try not to cheat with her though if you have any faith or interest in having a relationship as it will permanently tarnish things in the future. As another poster said, don't pursue her for anything beyond sex. If she doesn't give it up in a couple weeks, stop talking to her. She's going to do it with someone, you may as well get your dick wet. You should be chasing other prospects, so you don't become invested in this one.
If it were me, I would pass. There are plenty of single women you can hook up with. If you really want to sex her though and that's what she's looking for , go ahead. Just don't come crying here after you've fallen for her and she does the same to you that she's doing to her current BF. All times are GMT The time now is 2: The suggestions and advice offered on this web site are opinions only and are not to be used in the place of professional psychological counseling or medical advice.
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Originally Posted by isdn My question is: Hello, This is going to be a long one. I just wanted to provide the whole story. There is this woman that just moved to the area that I haven't seen in 20 years. When she found out I was here I was told that she was so excited. She pretty much remember me just like that but it took me a minute to remember her. So as time went by I helped her get herself situated. She wanted to be around me constantly and then we started to hangout once during the week and twice on the weekend.
During that time there was a lot of flirting; comments and a little touching. We have been going to lunch and dinner often. I forgot to mention after a week she was here she told me that she had been in a long distance relationship for 2 years. I didn't think nothing of it because I was just hanging out with her. But in the past two weeks I have started to be more attracted to her.
So I asked her several occasions if she was enjoying her time with me. She told me that's why she hangs out with me. I then asked her if she was attracted to me and if she was starting to like me.
She said she was going to keep it to herself. Anyway we went out last week and I asked her again. She said it's hard to answer that because of her boyfriend. The following day we had a misunderstanding. I made some comments that was not directed to her but she felt they were so got real upset.
It had nothing to do with us or her relationship. She didn't talk to me for the rest of the night. The following day we resolved our differences and went out to dinner and shot some pool. That same night I flirted with he a little bit she then told me that she doesn't like that. I was surprised with her comments. So the following day I told her I enjoyed spending time with her.
I asked her doe she feel the same way. She then responding saying she enjoy going out with people. I was confused with her response.
So I asked her if she was attracted to me. She ask me why would she allow herself to be involved when she's in a relationship. I was shocked with her response.
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My thing is I'm not trying to break up her and her boyfriend. I just wanted to see where her head is at. What should I do? How should I respond?
I made some comments that was not directed to her but she felt they were so got real upset. It had nothing to do with us or her relationship. I think if you like being friends with her you should respect her relationship and look for romance elsewhere. Tell me what you get out of this? But I do appreciate your response. Although it looks like she may have rightly already made that decision for you. It seems like she was feeling me at first.
Should I stop contacting her? Delete Report Edit Lock Reported. Respond Your response must be between 3 and characters. SarahK Send a private message. She's not sending mixed messages. She's interested in friendship - only friendship.
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She has a boyfriend and isn't interested in talking with you about whether or not she's attracted to you physically. Women often feel more comfortable being physically demonstrative with friends than men do. You shouldn't take her occasional touches as anything other than friendship.
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Frankly your persistence in pushing her beyond clearly stated boundaries is the textbook definition of jerk behavior. If you're not interested in being friends with her -only friends- stop spending time with her. Although it looks like she may have rightly already made that decision for you. Delete Report Edit Reported Reply. It doesn't sound like mixed messages to me. It sounds like you have developed feelings for her and they have not been returned.
She probably does like you as a friend and likes spending time with someone she knows if she is new to the area. She is probably trying to answer your questions in a way where she doesn't encourage your feelings but doesn't lose the friendship either. I think if you like being friends with her you should respect her relationship and look for romance elsewhere. To do anything else could mean the end of the friendship altogether. Well the whole time she was giving me compliments and touching me a lot..
Dating and Relationship Advice · Love Life Advice Answered Jan 8, · Author has 80 answers and k answer views. I wouldn't pursue her in an Views · Is a long distance relationship with an attractive girl possible? Views. I'm Falling in Love With A Woman Who Has a Long Distance Boyfriend. What Should I I had done my fair share of dating, but wasn't really looking for a LTR.
If I don't text her she is texting me wondering why I haven't texted her all day. Ever since we had a misunderstanding last Friday she's been acting different. She was very upset that day. Then Sunday is when she decided to tell me all this. She is new and needed someone to help her get going.